Cold Feet.,.

[MrsRoy]

I get them every other day or so...

Sometimes I have anxiety attacks and cry.

 

I feel overwhelmed at times. Then there are the times I'm happy and can't wait...

 

I've never lived with my fiancé. He has his place and I have mine. He lives 5hrs away so we see eachother once a month and when we are together we are fine. I'm supposed to move to his city and home. I think that's what I'm scared of...

The worst part is that our families know and I asked my dad to walk me down the aisle and the next day he was diagnosed with cancer ???? my wedding is all he talks about so the pressure just got 1000x worse.

 

Ugh... Sometimes it sucks being a girl lol

 

Anyone else get cold feet from time to time ?

[tarynh86]

Don't worry eveverything will work out

[acw271011]

I think everyone does. The one thing I have learned in life is that if it is meant to be, it will. That may not sound like "sage" advice, but it's a lesson that I've learned the hard way. If you love him, and that love is enough to get you through, then go for it. If it's your feelings you're doubting, then find someone to talk to, to help you figure it out. Life is tough enough and you need to believe in each other enough be able to work things out together. Find someone you really trust and talk to them. Planning a wedding can be stressful. Maybe it's just your dad being ill at the same time, or just the jumble of everything happening together. Having someone help you put it all in perspective can be a big boost sometimes!

 

Good luck!

[MrsRoy]

Thanks ladies... I have calmed down a bit since posting this... Still have my moments but they are about 6.5 on the Richter scale! Hahaha!

 

I think I'm still in shock and the thought of having to organize a party where everyone will be focused on ME makes me freak out...

 

 

deep breaths...

[kcole123]

@@MrsRoy you are not alone.

 

When my FI and I got engaged, just weeks after that he was asked to be posted outside of the province (he is military). I am a big sook when it comes to my family and the thought of leaving them just about killed me. But I had to make a decision. Right now I am living all the way across the Country. We are from Newfoundland and he got posted in Alberta. It was a hard decision but a friend told me it's either stay where you are and miss out on great opportunities with a person that I would be foolish to let go or take a chance and be happy. She also said that all my friends and family have their own lives and it's time for me to make mine. I thought this was good advice. I miss home like constant but I know I made a good choice because I can't imagine my life without him.

 

I have had my spurts of crying and overthinking many things that could go wrong with this wedding but I try to not dwell as much anymore. My FI says it is what it is and we can go with the flow.

 

I get very nervous over the thoughts of having "all eyes on me" the day of the wedding. I am afraid I will end up being so nervous, probably crying as I am walking down the isle and then think of how silly I probably looked to everyone...lol I am a big softy and also very shy and don't do well with crowds and being the centre of attention. I figured a destination would help with this because it wouldn't be a huge wedding...lol right now there are 27 people booked. It's probably going to be like 30 odd people. That even makes me sick to my stomach thinking of that. getting in front of 30 people to me it's just as well as if it were 200...lol

 

We will get through it I am sure

[acw271011]

I can promise you one thing. Once you start down that "path" or aisle or whatever your resort has, you will see your guy at the end and focus only on him. You'll have a hard time remembering it afterwards, or who sat where! The piece of advice I can give is CHILL!!! lol  And enjoy it!!! A destination wedding is nothing as complicated as a fancy do at home. It's much more relaxed and informal. Remember, you're either on a beach or very close ti one. You can't make that very formal!! Think about some old guy with a beer belly and a speedo as you're walking down the aisle, pray to god he isn't watching you and laugh. It will be over with before you even realize and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.

 

I remember someone that was on this site planning her wedding at the same time I was. Her new husband got really ill right before their wedding and just barely made it through on teh day of. He actually had to step outside of their reception area and throw up into a plant pot!!! Then there was another girl I think a couple of months either before or after we got married (can't remember which) but she had the same photographer that we had. Well they were doing their pictures after the ceremony, which was right at the beach and he lost his wedding ring!!! It was literally a half hour old on his finger and it ended up in the water and they couldn't find it! But if you don't laugh about things like that, then you'll drive yourself crazy! And life is just too short for that. I've found that out the hard way over the last year and a half.

[diadiamond]

@@acw271011 Really great advice!

 

I really love my fiance and I can't wait to get married and spend my life with him.  I won't lie sometimes I have cold feet.  My parents got divorced when I was really young so sometimes I wonder whether our marriage will last and I get scared about it ending.  We both just found full time jobs and we've been talking about moving in soon which makes me nervous because I've never lived away from home before.  I also worry that we could break up because we can't stand living with each other.  I don't worry about this stuff all the time, but it does cross my mind from time to time.

[MrsRoy]

So I'm losing my head again..

 

Planning a wedding should not be THIS stressful.

I second guess everything

 

 

My anxiety is really bad.

[TinkerSofi]

I just had a fight with my fiancé. I want to go back to schools for a masters and he's basically saying that he doesn't want to put his life on hold now that he's finishing his schooling this year. We also don't live together and want to buy a house next year but he's saying that we won't be able to afford everything and he wants to do all these things and what if we postpone the wedding till I'm done school. I told him there's no way. Our save the dates are sent and our invitation are ready to be sent. This hurts me terribly and I don't know if he's getting cold feet or what.

 

 

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[Tatimrivera]

Hi I can completely relate. I have very high anxiety about most life decisions. My FI and I have spent 7 long years together and most of them I have had cold feet about. It's difficult because we've had more bad times then good moments due to family and personal issues. Sometimes I think to myself what if we did not get married and just lived life as is.

I'm super nervous about everyone staring at me on the big day. But what gets me the most is that everyone tells me "everything will work out and be great" but I don't think they understand. I know all will go well but the anxiety dosent go away. I truly wished my FI and I had decided to elope because life's pressures are too much most times.