So sad and need to vent

[boscobel]

I am so sorry to hear that. That really stinks and is probably so hard to do. What are you options? Have you checked with your vendors to see if they have availabilities perhaps the month before or after? You still have plenty of time to get replacement STD's out if you are moving it up.

[michelle08]

This is never a fun thing to deal with! I'm sorry! I would say the same as the other girls...try and change it close to the original date. Hopefully no one has booked their trip yet and it won't be a problem I am sure....but do it soon!

 

You will want all your family there that can make it!

[PaulaV]

Oh no! It will all work out sweetie...

I guess I wouldn't want to do it without my father either, so that is understandable.

As others said maybe you can only move it a week or even days.

[lulubelle]

Thanks girls for all of your support. I haven't been on the forum because it is just too depressing to think about the wedding. I just don't even want to deal with it. I know in the end it will all work out for the best. Thanks again!!

[foxytv]

I am surprised that FFIL can't get a waiver for the overseas work thing for his son's wedding -- but that being said -- and assuming that is not an option, then I think truly the only thing you can do is bite the bullet and make the changes.

 

I would insert a note with the invitations addressing the date change.

 

If there is a penalty for any of the deposits, I would ask FFIL to help cover those penalty costs.

 

But being sure your parents are in attendance if they want to be is optimal, and the right thing to do.

 

It will all work out!!!

[Dbell]

I agree with LaLa, in the grand scheme of things, you are still with the love of your life and are only postponing the date. When you look back at this years from now, both of you will laugh and remember the good times, not the bad!!! It will be a blessing no matter when you set the date!

[Maura]

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Originally Posted by foxytv I would insert a note with the invitations addressing the date change. If there is a penalty for any of the deposits, I would ask FFIL to help cover those penalty costs. But being sure your parents are in attendance if they want to be is optimal, and the right thing to do.

I completely agree. While this whole situation sucks, if it were reversed and were your dad who couldn't make it, you'd want him there. Sadly sometimes parents misbehave or dont do what we want them to do (i'm dealing with this myself). We gals here all understand the need for a perfect wedding day and for everything to go the way we want, thats what this forum is here for. Your FI should definitely bring up with his father about covering costs of reprinted invitations or penalties from vendors for changing the date. But I think you may be surprised at how nice people (vendors) can be when you explain the situation. And if your FFIL wants to get in your good graces and his son's, he'll do whatever he can to help remedy the situation.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and we're all here to listen and help out. sending you a big hug!