The Hardest Part Of A Destination Wedding

[Dreamteam17]

@samathaC sorry to hear about everyone backing out, quite annoying

we had the same issue with 2 of my bridesmaids getting pregnant, I can't get mad but I am disappointed. My mom only wanted to come for wedding and leave and has been trying to talk us out of a destination every time I speak with her , makes me want to scream and tell her not to bother coming. I am expecting the worst when it comes to final payment time but I agree with your last paragraph it's about us and me walking towards him and as long as we have each other and our daughter that's all We need.

@@SamanthaC I am getting my bridesmaid dresses off etsy as well almost the same style and my wedding colour is mint as well !! I am nervous ordering them online but they are perfect and affordable and the reviews are good so I am going to take the risk. Have you ordered them yet? I have lots of things off etsy I want just wish shipping wasn't so much money sometimes but saves shopping around and not finding anything !!

I can sympathize ladies, totally. We ended up being just the 2 of us for our wedding. and in the end the MOH and BM cancelled too, but only because everyone else did, and they thought they were going to end up spending more money. The way it worked out, we booked last minute and save almost $300 on the cost of the trip. Each! But it was tough. It almost split us up after almost 10 years together. Hubs was so ticked because everyone had been so enthusiastic in the beginning and they were all going. We changed our date to accommodate everyone else. In the end, it was just the 2 of us, almost on the original date that we wanted and 2 WC's as our witnesses. We had an AHR because we were upset about not having everyone in jamaica with us, but hubby wasn't onboard with that for quite a while. I had to work on him for him to agree. We are only a small group anyway because our kids are grown with kids and our parents are elderly. Family is scattered everywhere and getting on in years so we had 28 at our AHR, with a sitdown dinner. We had a DJ and everyone had a great time. It was a tough situation. I've said it before - we want everyone to be as happy for us as we are. But everyone has busy lives nowdays and with the economy, sometimes money is harder to save.

 

The important thing is that it's you and your FI in a beautiful place. Our resort I think took pity on us and we were treated like a king and queen. It was great.

 

Hang in there. It will all work out in the end. Happy planning!

Wow that's amazing that you both stuck with it. They say destination weddings are suppose to be less stress but I disagree I think more stress then a at home wedding.

Thanks for sharing

[Dreamteam17]

Has anyone ordered dresses off etsy already and have a good seller with good quality dresses? I had a dress picked out was just waiting on getting the girls measurements. But there has been a couple bad reviews recently on the dresses being poorly made and not fitting ect. Makes me nervous ordering from her. But the dress is perfect colour and exactly what I want. I am going to check out davids bridal this week end see if they have a colour to match the men's ties we already bought and matched to the dress off etsy.... Confused on what to do :/

[atennille]

That last paragraph is what it's all about.

Edited July 16, 2014 by atennille

[Tatimrivera]

I ultimately gave up on ppl. Those that care will be there. And most importantly my FI and our daughter will be present.

[candle23]

One of my best friends just dropped out. I knew she would the whole time...I will get over it, after all, I will be getting married and couldn't be happier about it, just a little sad she won't be there to celebrate with us...

[atennille]

I am really upset with my best friend of 15 years for some things pertaining to my wedding, to the point where I may not even want to speak to her again. Am I wrong ?

[MissJen3]

About 2 weeks ago I had a mini break down when my brother and SIL said they were hoping to have a baby next year. I think it frustrated me cause they know we are doing a DW. When I asked my brother if he would still come to the wedding his response was " well its a family friendly resort, right?" We are hopign to book at a family resort as there will be children invited, but at the same time I dont think that they have thought about taking an infant to a hot destination, and how much that will suck. I feel like a selfish person because I just want to scream at them to wait a bit, but it is their life and who am I to tell them when to have a family? My brother knows that I want him there, and it would hurt to not have him there, but like when he was getting married, they did it their way and my FI and I plan on doing it our way, which is DW.

In all honesty, the conversation about my SIL getting pregnant made me not want a BP at all (my SIL was going to be in the BP). I had a break down at maybe her being pregnant and not coming, and my wedding is over a year away! I could not imagine my BP backing out closer to the day. My FI is still unsure about the idea of not having a BP, but for my sanity and emotional well being I think it should strongly be considered. Like I have tried to tell him, at the end of the day, its about the two of us.

[Sabes44]

So sorry to hear about people that are so close you you all dropping out!  That is one reason why we decided to not do a bridal party.  It would be too much stress to handle people dropping out or just having to deal with stuff that is out of your control.  @@atennille did your best friend do something to you or are you frustrated/hurt with her actions in regards to the wedding?

[atennille]

@@Sabes44 , I am very hurt by her actions, and on top of it all. She told me she could not make my wedding VIA text. I am like are you kidding me, a text message ?

[MissJen3]

I happen to be talking to a friend about this tonight (not in as much detail, but just a general idea), and her response was, " No matter where you go someone will be unhappy for one reason or another. But those who really want to be there for you and Sean will be there no matter what"