Stag And Doe Party?

[kellymiller]

Hi All,

 

Not sure if this is the right place to post this but I thought I would ask anyways.

 

Is anyone planning on having a Stag and Doe party for their DW? It feels weird to me to have one, as we are already asking people to spend lots coming to the wedding. I would feel bad asking people to spend more money on us so we can pay for the wedding.

 

Just looking for any thoughts on this!

 

Thanks

[flo628]

We are! We're having it in Cabo on the Thursday before the wedding, which is the day most people are arriving. However, our resort is not all-inclusive, so everyone will have to pay for dinner and drinks anyways, so I don't think it's a big deal, and I am going to give them the schedule, and they can choose what they are going to show up for. The girls are having spa time after lunch, then drinks by the pool, a power nap, tequila tasting in my room around 6 with snacks, then off to a nice dinner, and drinks/dancing wherever after. The guys are doing some sort of surfing thing in the morning, and...no idea what else the rest of the day.

 

If you are staying at an AI, you can always just organize a get together somewhere in the hotel for bonding and drinks?

[Meandhim]

I've never heard of a Stag and Doe party to help pay for the wedding until I moved to Ontario, and I must admit that the idea always seemed a little strange and unfair to me, but to each their own, everyone has their own traditions and I'm not knocking it.

 

We are going to an all-inclusive resort in Punta Cana,  and our usual traditions are a  bachelor / bachelorette party, and a bridal shower....these are usually thrown by the family / bridal party. I have informed my friends and family that  because they are spending so much money to go my wedding I don't expect any of those things and if they do choose to have them we can do it at the resort where everything is free or close to it . I'm also NOT registering for any gifts or suggesting Green Back, I'm just going to ask that people share their vacation pictures as my gift, I love pictures...even bad ones.

 

We are paying for the wedding ourselves and the budget is tight, tight, TIGHT! I know that I will have to do without some things at my wedding, but being a guest of a couple of DW's, one all-Inclusive and two not,  I understand the financial strain it could have on some guests and I've heard some of the complaints from the other guests. So I just want everyone to have fun and stress free vacation together without extra this and extra that. I want them to look back at our wedding and think of how much fun it was rather than how much money it cost them. 

 

It's a always a tough decision when it comes to friends, family and money...good luck!

[Kyliewylie]

I struggled with this one too, but I think that if you are not going to do an AHR, it might be the best way to include/celebrate with people who aren't able to make the DW