Is it okay to have a Stag and Doe??

[Jenn08]

Hi Girls,

 

What's your opinion??

 

I'd like to have a Stag and Doe to help raise funds for my wedding. However, I'm not sure that this is ettiquetely correct if I'm having a destination wedding. I.e. A lot of people who go to the S&D won't be going to the wedding. Although everyone is technically invited...

 

What do you think?

[michelle08]

I"m sorry...what is a stag and doe??

[Alyssa]

do you mean a fundraiser? i am totally confused?

i thought a stag and doe was a "jack and jill" or "guy and girl" shower??

[LCBride2007]

it's the canadian version of a bachelorette/bachelor party, I think. but i maybe tradition is to bring money more than gifts? i think i'm missing some of the main differences - but think bachelor/bachelorette party. not sure about the $$ though.

[starchild]

I first heard of it here but I also thought it was called a Jack and Jill? As far as it being appropriate I think other Canadian brides here have done it. Where I'm from people wouldn't go for it but it seems like a standard thing in Canada so I don't see why not.

[michelle08]

yeah I just read up on it and I don't think it would fly with my group and I personally wouldn't want to ask people to pay to come to some party I was throwing...especially since there is alot of cost incurred in going to a destination wedding. From what I just read, the guest could be alot of the people that maybe aren't coming or aren't invited to the actual wedding. Well I would really not want to ask them to help fund my wedding that I wasn't even inviting them too.

 

That's just me though and my friends and family. Everyone is different and it does seem to be most common in Canada, so if you think your crowd would go for it...then why not make some money!

[MrsV-to-be]

Actually I'm from Canada - and I have to admit I've never heard of it! Though I think - it is an Eastern Canadian thing (and being from the west) is probably why I've never heard of it.

[bride_2_b08]

We had a stag and doe/ going away party. We were moving to Australia for a yr and the wedding will be right after we move back to Canada. There was just to many people to see before we left and not enough time plus we really wanted to do a stag and doe so we made it into one big party. We had a TON of people come and it was a big hit. Alot of people said it was the best S&D they had been too. We put a lot of money into it though. We had a table of prizes (about 150) alot were donations but we also bought a lot of it. We had t-shirts, tools, booze, 27 inch t.v., a huge stainless steel BBQ, mini fridge, spa gift basket valued at $700 etc. It was a great night! So I say if you want to do it, do it!! All of our friends that won't be able to make it to the wedding came to the S&D and it gave us a chance to celebrate with all of them.

[CourtneyV]

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Originally Posted by akh it's the canadian version of a bachelorette/bachelor party, I think. but i maybe tradition is to bring money more than gifts? i think i'm missing some of the main differences - but think bachelor/bachelorette party. not sure about the $$ though.

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Originally Posted by starchild I first heard of it here but I also thought it was called a Jack and Jill? As far as it being appropriate I think other Canadian brides here have done it. Where I'm from people wouldn't go for it but it seems like a standard thing in Canada so I don't see why not.

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Originally Posted by MrsV-to-be Actually I'm from Canada - and I have to admit I've never heard of it! Though I think - it is an Eastern Canadian thing (and being from the west) is probably why I've never heard of it.

ROFL, I was starting to think I was a bad Canadian; I had no idea what this was!! Not sure it'd fly with my guests either though...

[rodent]

How much do people usually pay & what do they get? Is it open bar? From reading the one description I wouldn't know how you'd make money off of it.