No what?

[simplequestion]

I was to be in a destination wedding in Punta Cana in 3 weeks. Now unfortunately, the groom suddenly passed away. The bride is obviously heartbroken and has a lot to deal with. We are all in full support of her and her choices. My issue... Our trips are all paid in full and to be honest I REALLY want to go on this trip as it was to be my only vacation getaway for the year.

 

How do still go on the trip and not disrespect her? I'm open to going to another spot but I don't have the extra $ to spend rearranging my plans. I can get back the $ spent on airline tickets but it won't come till weeks after the vacation time.

 

What the best way to handle this?

[Kasey04]

Oh my goodness!! I am so sorry to hear of your situation, that's awful. Is there a way that you can quietly go and not necessarily say anything to her? Not that you're hiding it, but just not advertising what you're doing. I understand about needing a vacation and looking forward to going. The great thing about destination weddings is that it's not just a wedding but a vacation for the guests. So just because the wedding isn't taking place doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy a vacation, and I genuinely don't think it would be disrespectful for you to go. What do your friends and family think you should do? 

[Recy]

I was to be in a destination wedding in Punta Cana in 3 weeks. Now unfortunately, the groom suddenly passed away. The bride is obviously heartbroken and has a lot to deal with. We are all in full support of her and her choices. My issue... Our trips are all paid in full and to be honest I REALLY want to go on this trip as it was to be my only vacation getaway for the year. How do still go on the trip and not disrespect her? I'm open to going to another spot but I don't have the extra $ to spend rearranging my plans. I can get back the $ spent on airline tickets but it won't come till weeks after the vacation time. What the best way to handle this?

I too am sorry to hear this. Its a sad moment. However, she can not expect people to just waste their money like that. That would be selfish. Me personally I would go.you maybe surprised at how many people that paid u will see. shit. She may even be there. Enjoy. I say GO!!!

[Lilian84]

OMG what a tragedy. So sad. I don't know what I would do... I'm trying to imagine how she must feel and how she would react if you went.. but I honestly don't know it's too sad to even imagine. You know her best I guess you're the only one that can figure it out. very sad

[081114OVCUBA]

@@simplequestion

 

How devastating and painful this must be for the bride. I can't imagine going through that alone never mind at what is supposed to be such a happy and magical time. Just thinking about her grief is heat wrenching.

 

Were you her MOH? If you are one of her closest friends I would say her friendship and supporting her should be the biggest priority(IMHO). It might be good for her to get away from everything and take the trip too, or it might be way to soon, I'd go with what ever she is doing - she needs her friends now than ever.

 

If you weren't the MOH or one of her very close friends and she will have lots of people there already around her to support her, I would just go! You can reach out to those around her and talk about this, they might be able to let you know what others are doing etc.

 

If you have trip cancelation insurance, you might have it on a credit card and not even know about it, you should be able to rebook for another time or get a full refund due to these extenuating circumstances.

[kmk2016]

Thread is over a year old and OP likely made a decision by now since the wedding was to happen last November. Just an FYI

[Lilian84]

Thread is over a year old and OP likely made a decision by now since the wedding was to happen last November. Just an FYI

ooops didn't see that! anyways extra posts

[081114OVCUBA]

Whoops LOL

 

It was listed under new content (I guess because it had your post Lilian84), I didn't even think to check... Extra post... Doubt I'll ever make it to 150 at this rate, certainly not before the wedding anyway, trying!

[nadiakat17]

 

this is so sad

 

[Tatimrivera]

So sad...