Anyone else not doing invitations for the DW, just the AHR?

[kdnolan]

We didn't end up sending invites for our DW, by the time we got around to it everyone was booked.. So gonna do AHR invites!

[talicea7812]

if I even do an AHR it will be very informal.  Im already putting out my DW formalities. If you can't make it, its your loss.  AH will either be a backyard party of something at the local pub I work at.  Food will be simple.

 

As for invites im going very informal...probably even facebook.  I'm not putting myself in debt to feed or notify ppl.  Only a small handful feel we are important enough to make the trip to mexico...and for that we are grateful and will honor those guests.

 

Ive really gotten a bad attitude with planning this wedding. DWs really show u where u stand with friends.

[nettybon]

if I even do an AHR it will be very informal.  Im already putting out my DW formalities. If you can't make it, its your loss.  AH will either be a backyard party of something at the local pub I work at.  Food will be simple.

 

As for invites im going very informal...probably even facebook.  I'm not putting myself in debt to feed or notify ppl.  Only a small handful feel we are important enough to make the trip to mexico...and for that we are grateful and will honor those guests.

 

Ive really gotten a bad attitude with planning this wedding. DWs really show u where u stand with friends.

DW's show you where you stand with friends and family!!!! 

[JanetandDan2014]

Thanks so much all of you for your input on this.  Things ended up working out.  I did STD for the AHR in June.  For the DW in April I did word of mouth to close family and friends. I have some who really couldn't afford it who have gone out of their way to make sure they are there which has meant a lot to me.  I have some others who want to be there who just can't with finances, families, work etc.  I think that things have worked out well and that we will have a great group.  So far we have 29 booked.  I am doing a formal reception in June and inviting 305.  That completely took on a life of its own.  It was originally going to be "casual" but has turned into a full blown formal reception.  Oh my!

[Rainmaker]

Thank you everyone for your input in this! I've read so many places that "etiquette" says you are supposed to send an invitation if they are being invited to the reception. We are having a small DW (about 12 people) and it's only by word of mouth to those we want to be there. We will be having an AHR sometime when we return (still haven't figured that out yet) and will send out invitations for the reception.

[kellisbaby]

I sent STD's for our DW and an email "invitiation" with information about how to book their rooms at the resort.  This is acting as their RSVP.  People who book a room, I know will be attending.

 

I have no idea if I'll regret this choice!

We're doing an AHR, but I really don't care about it.  Honestly, it's for my FI, who feels badly about anyone who can't go to the DR.  We're having it at my FMIL's house and I think I'm going to go classy and send evites.

[Tamra]

I have a bit of a unique situation and I am wondering if anyone else has this going on.    We both have large families and multiple groups of friends.  We are having the DW (4/24/14) and a semi formal AHR (6/14/14) to include (225-240 people).  We are not planning to do formal invitiations for the DW.  We are planning to just do a Save the Date for the AHR.  We have the unique situation where we have several groups that we prefer DO NOT attend the DW (cousins, friends that drink a lot, annoying relatives, etc.).  We know that the very immediate family of parents, siblings and spouses, neices and nephews will be attending as well as a few of ours and our parents very "best friends".  These people we are in regular contact with and have just been telling them the information as we receive it from the travel agent, etc.  I expect with this immediate group that we will have approximately 30-50 people at the DW.  My concern is what to do with the AHR.  I have heard many people saying that they showed their wedding video, had a slideshow of photos, etc for the guests that could not attend.  i feel like I can't do that because the guests that didn't attend, (while they may not have anyway), they may not have because they were not technically invited.    Does anyone else have something similar to this?  I have gone back and forth and also considered inviting all 250 guests to the destination wedding, but really can't take the chance that it could grow to be 150 people traveling to Mexico with me.    I feel like the immediate family, very close friend option is a better choice but I don't know how to handle that with the formal AHR.    Help! 

 

We are in the same situation, so I have decided it's our day and it's impossible to invite everyone and I would rather a small intimate group for the ceremony ( in Cuba ) and are going to have a huge celebration/ reception for everyone when we get home

It's about what you want for one day.... And you should do what your vision is!

If you didn't invite them to either, then they could complain lol

 

 

Good luck girl! Happy Planning