Not Choosing Bridal Party Attire- Am I Crazy?

[shan0487]

You'll figure it all out and regardless of how it turns out it will be your perfect dream wedding and you will be able to include Elisha one way or another!

Originally Posted by Jenny2014 

 

I know! I'm going to sit on it for a few months, see how I feel about "promoting" my now only bridesmaid to Matron of Honour. Elisha will and always be my first and only choice for Maid of Honour, but Kandis just might fit the bill for Matron (it also helps that she lives only 45 minutes away, instead of Elisha's 3 provinces away.... and she just got married in the Bahama's this past August, so her brain is still set to wedding planning). Your absolutely right, I may find someone else to be my bridesmaid. But I am completely fine with just having the one person be there, and then having a "flat" Elisha there, either through technology (read: Skype), or through a picture/ whatnot.

 

I know things could change for Elisha too, but that would make me more sad, if she could suddenly come and it was because something happened with her job.

[TinkerSofi]

I don't think you're crazy. I'm just choosing the color but letting my bridesmaids decide what kind of dress they want so they can choose something that reflects their style. I think you should give them something to work with, like your colors. If someone told me, "pick whatever you want" I would be a little lost, and my first concern would be that I don't want to overshadow you or pick something that will be the focus on the pictures, on your day. That's a big nono. 

Originally Posted by Jenny2014 

Hello Everyone,

 

My FI and I decided way before we even got engaged that we wouldn't be having a "traditional" wedding. We knew we wanted a destination wedding, but we also knew we didn't want to have a specified bridal party attire. I am only have a MOH and a bridesmaid, and he is having two or three of his guys stand up with him.

 

I seem to be driving my friends crazy, as I am not choosing the dresses for them to wear. I have told them they can wear whatever they would like, preferably something they know they will wear again/ already own. I don't care about the colour/ design/ length/ etc. I just want them to be happy and comfortable with what they are wearing. I want their personalities to shine through.

 

They both keeping assuring me that it is okay for me to tell them what to wear, and ask me repeatedly what my colours are going to be. I simply showed them what I am thinking of doing for my own flowers, but told them that I will adjust their flowers to match what they are wearing, not necessarily to match mine.

 

Am I crazy? Is this completely different from what most brides do? They keep calling me the opposite of a bridezilla... but yet somehow it still seems as if I am just as bad. Granted, we have a ton of time before the wedding (still over a year and a half), but is this really so different?

 

Thanks for your help ladies!

 

Jenny

[TinkerSofi]

Originally Posted by Jenny2014 

 

 

I guess I just don't see how their dress choice would ruin my pictures? I will always know who stood next to me, I don't need them to be easily identified because they are wearing the same dress. I don't know, I guess my vision of my wedding pictures is a lot different than the traditional pictures. I just want us having fun. I would never be disappointed with their choices, because I know it reflects who they are.

 

I don't know hahaha, I think I am crazy. I can't completely articulate what my vision is- but it's certainly not matching or the expected.

Putting myself in their shoes, I'd be a little disoriented with where to start. Giving them a color will really help them narrow it down. They don't even have to be the same color, they could be different shades of the same color, or if you're going for bright colors, each one wearing a different bright color. It would still reflect their style, but it makes sure that you're still the centre of attention on all of the pictures. Imagine someone having a red dress, the next one a blush dress, etc. It just looks distracting, that woud be my concern as a bridesmaid of someone who lets me wear whatever I want with no guidelines.