RSVP Timeframe????

[MrsTobeD]

I would definitely not be chasing anyone either. 

Originally Posted by Sehausle 

Well I learned two lessons from this: 1) SO glad I kept my invites on the inexpensive side. I loved Vistaprint because I was able to customize, they came out gorgeous (high quality paper), and I spent under $100 for everything (this included a few other things too).  2) I will not be the bride who calls everyone. If you want to come to my wedding - wonderful! If not, I will not chase you down. I am leaving it fairly open for those 4 guests, but no others LOL.

 

You can simplify ...but you have to have a strong resolve lol This WILL test your patience from time to time.

[MrsBklovn]

So I ended up sending out my invitations 8 months in advance and I gave my guests 6 weeks to RSVP (June 2013). First off, my RSVP date was a soft cutoff for myself. I knew my guests would not respond on time.. out of 80 invites I received approx 30 responses by June (the due date). Everyone else responded afterwards. Now I've reached the point where I want to finalize decor, programs, oot bags, etc and I still have approximately 15 people who say they're attending but haven't booked their room as of yet. So I've sent everyone an email letting them know that they must book their room by Aug 15th, if not I will not be able to accommodate them at the wedding and my travel agent will not be able to reserve a room for them. I know the wedding isn't until December but the way time is flying December will be here in no time!

 

I understand some people are waiting for school schedules, vacation time, etc but its stressful just waiting on someone to make up their mind. I may sound like a b***ch for doing so but at the end of the day, I have to keep myself sane! 

 

Good luck ladies!!!! I'll let you know how my Aug 15th cutoff date goes.. lol

[MrsTobeD]

Yesterday I was looking at a check that my FH received, I remember the check coming in May, I also recall telling him, "deposit that check be ause you only have 90 days from the date of issued to cash" we are 4 days away from that dateline, I have put the check by our entrance console, where he also puts his keys" - the check have been in there for at least a month, I asked him yesterday if he wanted me to deposit the check, he said, "no, I will do it on my phone", that was yesterday morning and today the check is still not deposited. I am writing this here so we all understand why people wait lat minute or past the due date to RSVP, it is called procrastination, in my case, we are talking about money, not a fortune but still money and if people act like that when it comes to money, imagine a wedding that is not even theirs and which they would have to spend their money to go to.

[ceecee2014]

I didn't even bother with proper RSVP's because I figured people could tell me that they were coming until they were blue in the face, but until they'd put down a payment for the trip, they weren't official.

 

My travel agent just lets us know when someone as booked - so our RSVP was contacting our travel agent OR letting us know if they were booking independently. We've just passed the deadline for our held spaces and most people who said they are coming have booked. We have another 10 or so, that haven't said that they will book soon(ish) - but of course, from now on, the seats are open to the public, so it really depends on whether there is space on the plane and at the resort.

 

I've just let it go - if people want to join us, they'll come. It not, I understand. It's made the entire process so much less stressful.
That being said, we've already met our minimum number to reserve the restaurant privately, so it's much easier to add guests in the coming months.

[zeman321]

Originally Posted by ceecee2014 

 

I didn't even bother with proper RSVP's because I figured people could tell me that they were coming until they were blue in the face, but until they'd put down a payment for the trip, they weren't official.

 

My travel agent just lets us know when someone as booked - so our RSVP was contacting our travel agent OR letting us know if they were booking independently. We've just passed the deadline for our held spaces and most people who said they are coming have booked. We have another 10 or so, that haven't said that they will book soon(ish) - but of course, from now on, the seats are open to the public, so it really depends on whether there is space on the plane and at the resort.

 

I've just let it go - if people want to join us, they'll come. It not, I understand. It's made the entire process so much less stressful.

That being said, we've already met our minimum number to reserve the restaurant privately, so it's much easier to add guests in the coming months.

I understand where you're coming from....I have decided that I am not going to stress over things I can't control. RSVP's included. If they want to be there, they will.

[KK2013]

Originally Posted by zeman321 

 

I understand where you're coming from....I have decided that I am not going to stress over things I can't control. RSVP's included. If they want to be there, they will.

 

I wish I was as low key as all of you!   I have to tell the resort what people are choosing to eat, get my invoice going with the florist (ie how many centerpieces), and start constructing these crazy OOT bags I've concocted, so without a number, I am screwed!

[MrsTobeD]

Totally with you, I am a planner and I am not able to plan without a number. I am not making extra anything just in case, but I am also not going to chase anyone, whomever has RSVPd by the date will get an OOT bag, those that wait last minute will not, and I am going to plan from there.

I wish I was as low key as all of you!   I have to tell the resort what people are choosing to eat, get my invoice going with the florist (ie how many centerpieces), and start constructing these crazy OOT bags I've concocted, so without a number, I am screwed!

[AnaSteele58]

I didn't even bother with proper RSVP's because I figured people could tell me that they were coming until they were blue in the face, but until they'd put down a payment for the trip, they weren't official. My travel agent just lets us know when someone as booked - so our RSVP was contacting our travel agent OR letting us know if they were booking independently. We've just passed the deadline for our held spaces and most people who said they are coming have booked. We have another 10 or so, that haven't said that they will book soon(ish) - but of course, from now on, the seats are open to the public, so it really depends on whether there is space on the plane and at the resort. I've just let it go - if people want to join us, they'll come. It not, I understand. It's made the entire process so much less stressful. That being said, we've already met our minimum number to reserve the restaurant privately, so it's much easier to add guests in the coming months.

Your comment made me think of something! Why even bother with RSVP cards? Its extra postage and envelopes. People can RSVP by putting down a deposit. Having RSVP cards are so traditional when it comes to weddings so people expect them. To us, they aren't necessarily functional. Ppl can say yes until they are blue in the face. The reality of it is that until their FINAL payment is made...they are still tentative guest. Now granted after a deposit is made we can definitely narrow our count down. Sorry for the narrative...I'm thinking out loud

[zeman321]

Originally Posted by AnaSteele58 

 

 

Your comment made me think of something! Why even bother with RSVP cards? Its extra postage and envelopes. People can RSVP by putting down a deposit.

 

Having RSVP cards are so traditional when it comes to weddings so people expect them. To us, they aren't necessarily functional. Ppl can say yes until they are blue in the face. The reality of it is that until their FINAL payment is made...they are still tentative guest. Now granted after a deposit is made we can definitely narrow our count down.

 

Sorry for the narrative...I'm thinking out loud

I sound all easy and carefree now, but we haven't even sent out STD's yet! LOL! Let's see if I can maintain as we get closer!

[Sehausle]

Originally Posted by AnaSteele58 

 

 

Your comment made me think of something! Why even bother with RSVP cards? Its extra postage and envelopes. People can RSVP by putting down a deposit.

 

Having RSVP cards are so traditional when it comes to weddings so people expect them. To us, they aren't necessarily functional. Ppl can say yes until they are blue in the face. The reality of it is that until their FINAL payment is made...they are still tentative guest. Now granted after a deposit is made we can definitely narrow our count down.

 

Sorry for the narrative...I'm thinking out loud

We did not do RSVP cars but simply listed our wedding website (wanted to be sure people would look at it) . Needless to say I am SO happy I didn't spend the extra money and those who are going to make it made it a point to let us know.