What's the Best Wedding Advice You've Ever Given/Gotten?

[NJBride2014]

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Originally Posted by shan0487 
 

Here are my pieces of advice:

 

1) Do not pick your bridal party too early- if you get engaged longer than a year before your wedding wait until at least the year mark or less.  I learned this from my friends as they picked their bridal party too early and there was at least one person they wish they would have included and or gotten rid of once the big day got closer.

 

2) It is your day and it does only matter what you want.  When you get those No's back your heart does sink and you get disappointed- but when you are in Mexico or wherever your wedding is- you forgot about those people that didn't come.  My motto for my wedding was "It's their loss"  they have to hear about how much fun we had in Mexico for the rest of their lives- sucks for them haha.  Don't sweat the small stuff- if you do not get in contact with your onsite wedding coordinator a week or a month before you wedding- don't worry- it will all work out- these ladies are AMAZING and this is their job and they will make all your dreams come true!!!

 

3) I def agree with Allie    Pick a good photographer- your pictures are all you have after your wedding is over- I love looking at my 800 plus photos.  And keep in mind it might actually be cheaper to fly a photographer from your hometown vs hiring local to your wedding location.  I contacted a few local photographers from home and asked if they would be interested if doing a destination wedding! I ended up getting a photographer for 3 days with a TTD session, some rehersal dinner shots and ALL day and night wedding coverage (10 am to 10pm) for the same price as I would have gotten a Cancun photographer for 6 hours on the wedding day.  So don't be scared to ask!!! Oh and she did our engagement photos at home so we got to know her a little bit better before our big day and that was also included.

 

4) I recommend this which is something we were not able to do because we were married in Nov and my husband started a new job in Sept so he did not have much vacation time- but def take a couple days after the wedding and switch resorts or make everyone leave the resort and stay longer.  We spent a week in mexico- and about 12 people stayed the full week with us and the rest of the people (we had 39 total) stayed for 5 nights and we did not get any alone time as we didn't stay longer than our guests.  I feel like I got cheated out of my honeymoon as we felt obligated to eat and hang out with our guests the entire time.  So the hubby better be taking me on a "honeymoon" for our one year anniversary!

 

Such great advice.  Thanks!

[kay2015]

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Originally Posted by Billandstina 

I know we have to send out invites (we already did Save the Dates and just about everyone booked from those) but do you think it's even worth putting in RSVP post cards? What y'all are saying here makes me think its money better served elsewhere.

 

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Originally Posted by Billandstina 

I just remembered that I have to do RSVP's because we need to know food choices! I would have them respond on our website but there's no option for them to tell us what they want. How tacky would it be to not sent RSVP's and call everyone??

 

I was thinking the same thing... is it worth sending out RSVP cards with the save the date cards?

[Sehausle]

I had almost no one RSVP- I just had people RSVP through our website though because I felt it was a waste of money (thankyou BDW!) but you could always wait for people to RSVP through the website and then send out food choices just to those that RSVP. You could even state that on your website- "please RSVP by________  we will use this list to send out the menu selection"

 

 

I think the best advice was to take it in stride when people you expected to be there cannot. I was very upset that my best friend of 24 years was unable to make the wedding.  I was her MOH (spent $200 on a dress I couldn't afford at 21yrs of age)  and traveled to her wedding (though I stayed with relatives for free) ...I have also made it home for two of her kids births and a christening. I felt alot of resentment but I get it- she's a mom and things are different. It was tough to come to the realization that she wouldn't make it but I intend to focus on the guests that actually will be there !

[sky186]

I'm glad I read this as I was going to spent a lot of money on invitations and RSVP's with stamps etc but think I'll just keep it simple x

[NJBride2014]

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Originally Posted by Sehausle 
 

I had almost no one RSVP- I just had people RSVP through our website though because I felt it was a waste of money (thankyou BDW!) but you could always wait for people to RSVP through the website and then send out food choices just to those that RSVP. You could even state that on your website- "please RSVP by________  we will use this list to send out the menu selection"

 

 

I think the best advice was to take it in stride when people you expected to be there cannot. I was very upset that my best friend of 24 years was unable to make the wedding.  I was her MOH (spent $200 on a dress I couldn't afford at 21yrs of age)  and traveled to her wedding (though I stayed with relatives for free) ...I have also made it home for two of her kids births and a christening. I felt alot of resentment but I get it- she's a mom and things are different. It was tough to come to the realization that she wouldn't make it but I intend to focus on the guests that actually will be there !

 

That's sucks about your friend but you have the right attitude enjoy the guests that are coming.  Have an awesome wedding!

[kay2015]

That's sucks about your friend but you have the right attitude enjoy the guests that are coming.  Have an awesome wedding!

Yes sometimes ppl closest to you will surprise you but it's your day and don't let anything or anyone ruin it for you. Enjoy your day

[Sehausle]

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Originally Posted by kay2015 


Yes sometimes ppl closest to you will surprise you but it's your day and don't let anything or anyone ruin it for you. Enjoy your day

 

Thanks ladies! It won't ruin it,  it was shocking at first though but I have a great group of people who CAN make it : )

[kay2015]

Thanks ladies! It won't ruin it,  it was shocking at first though but I have a great group of people who CAN make it : )

This is going to be one of the happest days of your life you won't even notice who's not there... They will be the ones noticing they aren't at your wedding

[ClaudiaCrochet]

I desperately wanted to lose a few pounds before my wedding, the more stressed I got, the more I ate! I really wish they had It Works body wraps around when I needed them! I use them now to get rid of the tummy baby fat, stretch marks and to tighten and tone my "after baby" skin. I really think it's most important to remember not to get too stressed as it's ONE day in the rest of your lives together and it goes by so fast that it may become a blurr so enjoy yourself and relax as much as possible!

[Sehausle]

Very true!