worried about low attendance for our wedding

[JennyZ]

Just got back from my Parents house, where we were sitting down to discuss our resorts wedding packages/prices and have decided we are at an absolute standstill, until we start hearing back from people (no one has RSVP'd at all yet, but it is still 2 months before the deposit deadline). It's just so damn hard to "hold your horses", when planning the details is SO MUCH FUN!

 

I already knew my "side" was going to be VERY small - just my Mom and Dad, Brother, Aunt & Uncle and a few friends... But ever since the "notice" went out, people have been dropping off like flies! LOL! I had a girlfriend reply yes! Then respond back the next day declining, due to the fact the wedding is NEXT year and not this year... Hmmm....? I'm even starting to doubt my MOH is going to come - So I'm really beginning to enjoy the idea of a sign at the ceremony saying "Pick a Seat, Not a Side" to even things up!

 

Thanks to the ladies on these forums, I'm starting to see the same trend of stress for these issues and quite frankly, they are not ones you are able to control (I'm sure it drives everyone else batty too!!!). All in all, as long as my Mommy, Daddy and FI show up - it's going to be the most beautiful day of my life

Edited October 18, 2014 by JennyZ

[calgarybride2015]

Just got back from my Parents house, where we were sitting down to discuss our resorts wedding packages/prices and have decided we are at an absolute standstill, until we start hearing back from people (no one has RSVP'd at all yet, but it is still 2 months before the deposit deadline). It's just so damn hard to "hold your horses", when planning the details is SO MUCH FUN!

 

I already knew my "side" was going to be VERY small - just my Mom and Dad, Brother, Aunt & Uncle and a few friends... But ever since the "notice" went out, people have been dropping off like flies! LOL! I had a girlfriend reply yes! Then respond back the next day declining, due to the fact the wedding is NEXT year and not this year... Hmmm....? I'm even starting to doubt my MOH is going to come - So I'm really beginning to enjoy the idea of a sign at the ceremony saying "Pick a Seat, Not a Side" to even things up!

 

Thanks to the ladies on these forums, I'm starting to see the same trend of stress for these issues and quite frankly, they are not ones you are able to control (I'm sure it drives everyone else batty too!!!). All in all, as long as my Mommy, Daddy and FI show up - it's going to be the most beautiful day of my life

I don't think you have to be at an absolute stand still. Unless your packages are super restrictive. I knew what I wanted regardless so we just went on and planned. We had a lot more come than I imagined so I had to increase my budget some! Favors we waited till we had a general idea. Most people didn't pay their deposit until the final week and days so just be prepared for that.

 

 

 

 

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[kmk2016]

I agree... Don't let your unenthusiastic inlaws slow down your excitement. Start planning decor, entertainment, photographers, makeup, flowers etc... Then once you have a better sense of numbers you can look at the reception menu and the more detailed part of the planning!

[JennyZ]

@@calgarybride2015 and @@kmk2016 - Thanks Ladies! My excitement cannot be wavered! I still have 408 days to go (but who's counting, right?!  ) and already have made all of my dinner table decorations, chose my flowers, my favors, the band, have my photographer, doing my own hair & makeup (luckily, I do that for a living) and have a list of everything that's going in the OOT bags - seriously can't wait to make those!!!

 

The unfortunate part about my resort, is I can't choose my wedding package until I know how many people are coming (it's a HUGE price jump between 20 & 30 people), so I'm unable to book my restaurant/reception - we want a private dinner, but you must have a least 30 guests in order to get it. Cant chose the meal plan - for under 30 people we get a selection to offer, but over 30 people is a set menu. I've decided just to book the lower package and confirmed with the resort, that I can upgrade, should we need to!  

 

I'm not ordering invitations until people start actually booking, because what we're doing is - if people are going to spend thousands of dollars to attend our wedding, we're having these amazing custom "message in a bottle" invitations made - beautiful labelled bottle with sand, seashells, a script, wrapped with fishnet in a box  - which are running us around $18US each (thank goodness I invited mostly couples!!! LOL! )

 

Anyway! With each passing day on here and the awesome support you guys give, I'm feeling more open to the whole experience and know in the end, it's all going to work out fine! I'm just being overexcited and wanting everything to happen too quickly. BREATHE!!! I took my extra energy back to my wedding website instead and wrote the story of our love, to share with everyone. Even had some tears while I was writing it! Mushy mushy!!!

 

Hope everyone is having a great Sunday!

[cfinkenbine]

From what I have read on here…a lot of people tend to wait until the last minute to book reservations! (Awful for us brides!) We are also going to have guests "take a seat, not a side". I only have my dad, step mom, and step sister attending, and a MOH. Unfortunately most of my family cannot attend!

[Soon2bmzbrooks]

I'm going throught this also.  I've sent out 2-3 rounds of Save the dates with TA info for making deposits and reservations to 55 people. So far 6 have paid deposits.....