Off Your Chest

[BrittneyD]

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Originally Posted by BrittneyD Are you an instructor therapist? How long have you been working with aggressive kids? Do you have any advice to help me stick with it? It's only been 2 months and I am really struggling as to whether this is for me.

I do home programs for children on the autistic spectrum. A couple of the children I work with have problems with aggression. I know it can be extremely trying at times. Just remember not to take anything they do personally. Just be extremely patient and caring. It's hard because a lot of times these children are not developmentally where you want them to be. You just have to meet them where they are at and work from there. Let me know if you have any specific questions. I will be happy to help if I can.

[jak27]

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Originally Posted by JenandBrendan I can't even imagine what it's been like. But I'm good at praying. What day next week does he go back to the doctor (I put everything on my Outlook calendar.)

Well, he goes back Monday but it's usually a least four days of tests, appointments, etc. so I probably won't know anything until Friday.

I'm so proud of him though, he is the strongest person I know! He was diagnosed 5 years ago (September 12, 2002) and the typical life span of individuals with the cancer is about 5 years after diagnosis. Well, he's in total remission and doing great thanks to experimental programs, tandem transplants, etc and it's just a miracle. He wanted 10 years at the time of diagnosis, so we're doing great so far. He might even still have enough time to meet a grandchild someday!

[jak27]

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Originally Posted by starchild Jill I'll pray for your dad too )

Thank you! Now I'm getting teary! Yall are just too much sometimes. It's wonderful.

[brecluse]

I LOVE this thread, can't believe I just found it this am. Sorry this is so long, but clearly I had a lot to get off my chest.

 

Dear self,

Please give Alisha a break, and stop telling her negative things. She has worked really hard all summer and it does suck that she hasn't lost that much weight, but she will still look great on her wedding day even if she didn't meet the ridiculous goal you set for her. Also, her face is not fat and she can't help it if eye bags and dark circles run in her family, that's what make up is for right? She'll look great in her pics because that's what photoshop is for right?

 

Dear FMIL,

I know you are trying to help when you make suggestions, but seriously do I look stupid? Don't you think I know I need to put pics of our Dad's on the Rogue's gallery? I just have about a million other things going on and your son has yet to provide me with a pic of his dad.

 

Dear FH,

You are going to rock the shit out of this new job if you get it so stop worrying and constantly verbalizing about it. I will always be there to listen to you vent, etc but really at some point you gotta do it and quit talking about it. Also, quit staying up late to play video games I feel like you are ignoring me. You talk, talk, talk about your problems but then when I try to talk it's like "ok, gotta go play games, later". So suck it up and listen to my worrying about my weight, eye bags, and wide face because basically it's the same as me listening to you worry about if you can do this job. I love you.

 

Dear Mom,

Thank you so much for your generosity, I feel so guilty that you are contributing so much to this wedding. I know you wouldn't do it if you couldn't, but really I don't know if I can ever thank you enough. I'm sorry I was such a pain in the ass when I was a teenager. I love you.

 

Dear Dad,

I'm really sorry that you can't make it to the wedding and while you have a good reason part of me feels like it's par for the course since you have rarely made it to my milestone moments. I really hope everything goes well with Linda's scan and I'll be thinking of you guys. I love you.

 

Dear Stepmom,

I'm so sorry that you can't come to the wedding. I know you were looking forward to it so much. I can only hope (and maybe even pray) that your scans will show improvement and that you will finally beat this cancer so we have something else to celebrate. I'm sorry I can't visit you more I feel like I'm being a bad daughter, but I know you understand. I love you.

 

Dear sis,

You rock and I want to thank you for the great shower and for being there for Linda so much. I know it's hard to bear the burden of that on your on so much, but I appreciate it (as I know she does) and I hope after the wedding we can start sharing that responsibility. I love you.

 

Dear BFF,

Girl, I love you, but you need a reality check. You aren't ever going to put your marriage back together unless you stop seeing that other guy, period. You cannot be "just friends" with any more, you guys f*d that up the minute you started having sex. If you want to be together then you need to leave your spouses and make it real, if not you need to let go of him. If you seriously want to work things out with your DH then you need to drop the other guy, talk to DH about why this happened and understand that he has a right to be pissed, and to not trust you. I hope being away from both of them at the wedding will give you some perspective.

 

Dear co-workers,

I can see your lips moving, but seriously I have 2 and half weeks til I leave for my wedding I don't give a crap about work right now. So check back with me in November. And yes it's true (though none of you realize it) I only do about 8 hours of work a week right now because all I can think about is WEDDING, VACATION, WEDDING.

 

Dear BDW,

I love this board and I want to thank everyone for their advice, help, and funnies. I wish I had some girlfriend's like you guys in Austin! You all rock.

[MelissaH]

Dear DH,

 

Was it really necessary to freak out on me like that? Hello!?! How has it become my fault that you aren't losing weight?

I know I rolled my eyes at you over going on your stupid nothing but chicken diet, but seriously, how many times have you tried it and it's lasted no more than a week? And why is it so hard for you to realize that it really, really sucks ass cooking for myself?

If you have such a problem with what I'm making you for dinner then why don't you f'ing cook for a change?

And WTF...I put no thought into what I cook? You try coming home from work after a 13 hour day, try and figure out what to make with what's on hand because I haven't had time to do groceries in the last week and a half because I'm working so f'ing hard trying to make more money to pay off OUR debt. I know it's not the healthiest stuff, but hello? portion control maybe?

And it's YOU who asks me to make things like apple crisp and muffins...I hate to bake, you think I'd do it willingly? Look at what YOU'RE doing to contribute to your weight gain and stop f'ing blaming it on me.

And BTW, the alarm went off at 8am for you to go to the gym, and where were you at 9:30? Still in bed. So F off. I'm sick of this.

[NYJen]

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Originally Posted by jak27 Thank you! Now I'm getting teary! Yall are just too much sometimes. It's wonderful.

WOW - he IS strong!!! That's awesome that he's been in remission for so long. I also think it's so wonderful that he'll be going to your wedding and walking you down the aisle. I'm going to pray for your dad all weekend and everyday next week. Please keep us in the loop with what the doctors say.

[Can'tHardlyWait]

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Originally Posted by starchild I think so too Galit....I'm sorry you're stuck dealing with things the way they are (

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Originally Posted by Mrs.B 2008 galit - that gave me the chills - i am glad you got it out!

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Originally Posted by trisha0612 galit...you should send that to him!! now that's a wake up call for him!

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Originally Posted by Nrvsbride Galit, I also think you should send that to your dad. It made me so sad to read that post. I'm sorry that he has hurt you and your family so much. I hope things get better soon.

Thanks ladies, this thread rocks. I never get to talk about this because, well, there is no one to talk to about it (I don't like telling FI because we spend so much time with my family and I don't want him to hate my father). As for sending him the letter, I am sad to report that it would be useless ... knowing him he wouldn't read it

[JulieG]

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Originally Posted by Galit Thanks ladies, this thread rocks. I never get to talk about this because, well, there is no one to talk to about it (I don't like telling FI because we spend so much time with my family and I don't want him to hate my father). As for sending him the letter, I am sad to report that it would be useless ... knowing him he wouldn't read it

Isn't it worth a try though? What harm could it do?

[DreaW]

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Originally Posted by MikkiStreak Sex has the same effect on men as turkey does at Thanksgiving---- they fall asleep afterward...

Dear Self:
WAY TO GO!!!!! YOU GOT SOME LAST NIGHT!!!! Note to self to get Erik off the computer and come play, you need to wear sexy nighties and not just boxers and old shirts. .... Did you see how quickly he got off the computer when you came in, stood in front of him and just looked at him with the look (as he said)"you better get off that computer and f**k me NOW!" look.

Maria.....
Erik doesn't sleep after sex he actually is very much awake afterwards....I'm the one that has a tendency to go to sleep.

[Spazz]

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Originally Posted by jak27 Thanks Jen, he's been in remission for at least 6 months, but he has an incurable cancer, so it never goes away, it's just how active it decides to get. I'll keep yall posted, but I get so tense when he goes back to the doctor (usually every three months or so now). Last year was really rough.

Jill, I'll keep him in my prayers...