What is everyone's thought on a bridal shower with a destination wedding?

[TauruSmith]

We are having one too - a lot of people can't make it to the wedding or the shower or both and want to celebrate. We are also upgrading after having lived on our own for the past 10+ years.

[Sophia2616]

I am having one too. I think its fun and part of being a bride (to me that is) is going thorugh all these fun events leading up to your big day (shower, bach, wedding).  I agree with what other people said too, some pple cant make our destination wedding (we are not doing AHR) so they want to celebrate our wedding with us. My mom and sister are throwing it (& paying for it) I wouldnt expect my bridesmaids to especially since they are all travelling to Mexico. We also registred with honeyfund (we have been together 7 years and have most of the stuff we need already) that way people can give as little or as much as they way or nothing at all just celebrate with us!!

[JenniBassler]

I am having three.... one with my girlfriends and their moms, one thats a family shower of his and my family, and one that is a couples shower thrown by my parents friends with all our friends. I am fine with having a shower I just did not want my friends that I know are going to be hosting anything and spending that much more money. I know how expensive being in a wedding can be and that is one of the reasons I decided to do a destination wedding to begin with. Save them the cost of the dress, the out of town bachelorette, hosting the showers...total all that up and it really doesn't end up being that much more! The one with my friends and their moms is more for their moms that I know won't be able to make it, and same with a lot of the extended family. I agree with the previously post, its your only time to really get spoiled and it be all about you... just enjoy it! 

[jennifer8913]

I am having a shower, its all part of being a bride!! My bridesmaids told me I am absolutely having a shower. Yes people are spending money to go to the wedding and I am not expecting people to spend even more money on a gift, but that is the part you take into consideration when creating your registry. Choose items at different price points so people have options they can afford. I specifically put on our website Your presence on our special day is more than enough of a gift for us! If you still feel that you would like to give a gift,  we have registered with ..... It does make it easier for people because we all know some people will still give gifts esp if they can't come and even if you aren't having an actual shower. Hope this helps and I def see both sides of this conversation and agree with both sides, it is a tough situation and only you know how your friends and family will respond!