Where to start !!!!

sbrown2014 · August 7, 2012

Hello Everyone,

Where to start ! I never realized how challenging this could be ! To make it even harder my fiance and I are from two separate countries on the opposite side of the world (Australia and England) and actually want quiet different things now that we are actually planning a wedding.

We had always wanted to get married on a beach somewhere in the middle ( or close to ) but its made harder by the fact that my partners mother is disabled and make the destination so much harder. I would like to get married here ( Aus) and have a blessing in the UK but my fiancee wants his mother to be there ( I do as well but I am torn between my dream wedding and compromising and he deserves to have her there )

I am also feeling uncomfortable about asking people to pay alot of money to be at our wedding and I wondered how people have got around that , paid for 1 nights accommodation ? many of our friends have children now

There is so much info on the web that I don't even know what to look for, all inclusive? resorts? organizing an event yourself? paperwork ?

I don't know a whole lot about getting married abroad and need ANY advice at all.

Thanks in advance

x

Moments That Matter · August 7, 2012

Congrats sbrown2014 and welcome to the forum. Lots of brides here have been right where you're starting from, and you're sure to find very helpful suggestions here.

We also post some excellent tips on our website, so be sure to check it out........take a deep breath and get set for the memorable journey ahead - you'll be great and everything will work out, you'll see.........all the best!

jello · August 8, 2012

Hmm. Based on everything you've written, it seems like it might be a good idea for you to have TWO weddings. One in England that your fiancÃ©'s mother can easily attend, and one in Australia on a beach. That way, you can have your dream wedding at the beach, your fiancÃ©'s mother can be at the wedding in England, none of your guests have to spend a lot of money traveling if they don't want to, and it'll be a lot easier for you to plan your beach wedding in Australia, a place that you're familiar with.

I know several people to have done this because their families are from far-apart countries, and it's always worked out well.

sbrown2014 · August 10, 2012

This is what I have said to my partner, but he feels that by doing that when we go to England that he will already be married.

It's a tough one ! and I think we just need to explore all our options

AllieH · August 10, 2012

I find it hilarious that the FI's tend to be the ones who are protesting about "already being married" for a second ceremony (or the first!!). We are doing the legal paperwork here at home, and a symbolic ceremony in Mexico. So we will already be legally married when we have our ceremony. It took me a while to talk him into this! and now he keeps asking me when we're going to the courthouse, if that will be the anniversary we celebrate, and on and on.

Instead of looking at the England ceremony as "your wedding", why not reposition it as a "celebration of your marriage", where you are repeating your vows for friends and family there. It's all in the spin!!!

Originally Posted by sbrown2014

This is what I have said to my partner, but he feels that by doing that when we go to England that he will already be married.

It's a tough one ! and I think we just need to explore all our options