Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

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Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

 

oh my gosh! I am so sorry for your loss!  I'm sure he knew he was thanked just by knowing that you two have such a nice life together!   hang in there hun - we are here if you need to talk!!   ***hugs***

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Originally Posted by zeman321 

 

Sure! Just need it back by 10/25/2014!

 

Oh!  you will share your starfish?  That is amazing!!  

 

October is a tight one with three of us pretty close but of course we would make sure you have it back on time!!!

[tyrebride2b2013]

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

So sorry to hear this news.I'm sure he knew you guys were thankful. Maybe you could find a way to have im included a little msg on program thanking him or a pic

[brownsugarbride]

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

Oh no! I am sure that your friend knew how grateful the two of you were to him. I know right now you're hurting (and possibly in shock), but it might br nice, as another person just mentioned, to think about a way to honor your friend at your wedding.

[shugapop1]

aww! Do you still wanna do that starfish share?

I definitely am un for the starfish share. Just. Let me know who, when, where and how much I need to give for them

[pongyang2001]

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

sorry for your loss. <>

[shugapop1]

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm here if you need.

[Shara1984]

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

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Originally Posted by moodyc82 

 

Ladies......I was a complete bridezilla last night.....and I think it is spreading into today as well. I need to vent a bit.....My FI's father is a worthless drunk. In the 3.5yrs we've dated he has never been around and my FI doesn't have a relationship with him. When my FI graduated the police academy this scum didn't show up b/c my FI didn't call him on his birthday......oh I'm sorry, but it was 3days before he graduated and passing the academy was a little bit more important. Moving on......so that christmas he decided to take Roy and his brother out to dinner and gave him a check for like $200 for a "graduation present". OK.....so that was 2011......now we never have really had contact with him since. We got engaged March 16th, Roy called his father to tell him we are engaged.....his father decided he wanted to take us out to dinner to celebrate our engagement. Well, this was April 4th I believe that we went (first saturday in April) and we are sitting in the parking lot of the restaurant waiting for his worthless father when we suddenly get a call from him (mind you it's 5pm). He calls and says he's lost........we immediately knew he was drunk b/c we were at the restaurant they always go to for the last 30yrs.......well, Roy gives him directions. 10mins later his father calls again that he's been in an accident.....at this point he is SO intoxicated that he can't even tell us where he is. Well every min for 15mins this SOB kept calling us asking when we will get there.....well we tell him to put a cop on the phone and he does and we find out where he is (literally 5mins from the restaurant). We go and there's 3 cop cars and a motorcycle cop and the damn women he hit. Well get this, this SOB hit this women at a light, and than drove 5miles away trying to escape......Well, it would of helped if he didn't leave his damn liscence plate at the scene of the accident!!!!!!! So, all he keeps asking Roy is "what are you going to do for me". Well, he gets arrested after failing the test, IN FRONT OF US. We end up having to call his brother to go sign him out b/c Roy can't because of his job and I can't b/c I'm his future wife. Well, lets just say they did this man a HUGE favor as far as not throwing the book at him. 3hrs after they arrest him they made him blow.....he blew a .30........3hrs later!???!!!~?! So we have to drive him home b/c they impounded his car....so the whole ride home he acts like nothing is wrong....and that now we're going to have to be a taxi service to him........They take him to court on that Monday and he gets his lis. taken away for 7months and when he gets it back he has to have the machine put in his car to have it be able to start when he blows in it........WELL, the next day while he's at work his mother (roy's grandma) (96yrs old) falls down the stairs and breaks her hip, shoulder, and leg. So now this SOB expects us to drive him back and fourth to the hospital every single day (they're 40mins from us). This went on until she finally died on June 15th......Now on father's day Roy decided to be the bigger person and call him, well the father wants to go out to dinner......we go and this SOB has a siezure at the diner b/c he didn't drink for 8hrs.....we rush him to the hospital and he tells the doctors and everyone else he doesn't drink......seriously?! So I left the room, not sure what was said to him by Roy and his brother but I know whatever it was it was harsh. Well, he was released the next day and given detox drugs and asked for us to go to dinner.....do you see a patern here? I never actually get to eat the dinner I'm invited to.......well, he acts like NOTHING happened. Nothing.....the doctor told him he is dying b/c of the drinking and he pretends like nothing is wrong.......I have not seen the man since. And since March I said he was uninvited to the wedding, that I'm not babysitting him in another country and I'm not having my wedding day ruined. Well, yesterday my FI was with his mother (ugh another long story, MONSTER-in-law) and she tells him he's actually been sober and that maybe we should think about inviting him.....girls I lost it.....I mean absolutely lost it and flipped out and said I didn't care if he was the king of Prussia and had a check for $2million dollars that I did not want him there and if he wanted him there than we are calling off the destination wedding and we'll go get married in Vegas.....I just can't deal with him being at the wedding with the thought of unlimited alchol around and available 24/7.....am I being an ass?

 Wow alot to deal with but addiction is really a sickness..is he getting any help?  tough decision to make.  FI's mom had an addiction we have since lost her.  Although she had this addiction they were still very close and it is still very hard for him to deal with.  sorry didn't mean to go off your FFIL but he is his dad maybe discuss with him and see where he stands with him coming.  Something you should decide together.

 

WHEW!!!! I would just not invite him. Avoid conflict and stress or go to vegas get married.

 

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

 

Originally Posted by shugapop1 

 

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Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm here if you need.

Sorry to hear about this. We are here if you need us!

[pongyang2001]

Hey ladies where are you getting your pashminas? The http://www.pioneergroup27.com/ has a minimum order of $100 ($30/dozen) I don't really need that much so i'm still searching for inexpensive ones with good quality for the price.

[moodyc82]

Originally Posted by Jessica Correa 

 

you arent being an ass. He had many opportunities to prove himself and failed every single time. It would not be fair for you, your fiance, nor anyone else to have to babysit a grown man. Plus I am sure everyone would worry and could even cause drama with the resort. I think your fiance will understand where you are coming from.

Thanks girl

Originally Posted by niknic456 

 

Trust me I totally get what you are saying and of course nobody wants their wedding ruined or to even have the thought that a guest let alone a parent would ruin the wedding. However, at the end of the day that is your FI's father and in turn will become your father. If it wasn't for that drunk, you would not be marrying the love of your life.  My father also has a drinking problem and has put my family through hell all 35 years of my life.....but NEVER in a million years would I not invite him to share in the most important day of my life because of his unsavory behavior. All I can say is that if you do not get along with your FI's parents and hold so much disgust in your heart, that is not a good sign and sooner or later it's going to affect your marriage in a negative way. In my opinion I think you should give your FFIL the opportunity to share in his sons special day or let your FI make the final decision and stand by whatever that decision may be. Just my opinion....or when all else fells make a pina colada!!!!

No he will not be invited, he has chosen not to be a part of our lives at all ever and he has failed to get help when he has been told by the courts, by all of us, and by the doctors in the hospitals. I will continue to hild hatred in my heart for this man for the simple fact that he doesn't care about anyone other than himself. His mother fell down the stairs b/c he was too drunk to help her do laundry and would be passed out on the floor, in turn she died because of his neglect. I have zero respect for the man.

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

sucks hope your package came by now

Nop enot yet......say's its in transit today ugh

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

 Wow alot to deal with but addiction is really a sickness..is he getting any help?  tough decision to make.  FI's mom had an addiction we have since lost her.  Although she had this addiction they were still very close and it is still very hard for him to deal with.  sorry didn't mean to go off your FFIL but he is his dad maybe discuss with him and see where he stands with him coming.  Something you should decide together.

No he's not getting help

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

that is not a good reason to invite him especially if he will be trouble is she going to watch him?  if he is not getting help at this point and proving that he is changing it could be dangerous to have him at an all inclusive.

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I wanted down too but I know it would be better for an updo

No she doesn't plan to babysit him lol and he is not getting help

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

Girls i am so sad. I just found out that the person responsible for bringing shemel and i together passed today. And here i was fighting over ceremony cards that now need to be changed. I never thanked him for introducing us. My heart is so heavy

UGH that is horrible so sorry hunnie

Originally Posted by Shara1984 

 

 

WHEW!!!! I would just not invite him. Avoid conflict and stress or go to vegas get married.

 

 

Sorry to hear about this. We are here if you need us!

Thanks