Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

[hclibby1982]

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

So apparently it is still asshole wedding guests week. Question: is it true that usually people who have engagement parties don't have bridal showers? Is this a rule I'm unaware of? So here goes my cousin asking me if im having a bridal shower and i just said im not sure, and he hits me with this. Right because men know so much?? I don't get what an engagement party would have to do with a bridal shower. Am I bugging?

I have never heard of this.  I didn't have an engagement party but if I had it woud've just been an occasion to celebrate and if someone wanted to bring a gift that is their decision.  Gifts are the norm at showers and as my Mom told me this weekend when I started my registry, they are "to start your life together". I feel strange having a shower but my Mom insists and like she says if people don't want to come they don't have to and if they do, they don't have to bring you a gift. 

 

My point is no matter how many parties you have I'm sure you're not coercing your guests to give you gifts, can't people just be happy and celebrate for one another without thinking someone has a selfish ulterior motive???   

[MissJali]

Originally Posted by hclibby1982 

 

I have never heard of this.  I didn't have an engagement party but if I had it woud've just been an occasion to celebrate and if someone wanted to bring a gift that is their decision.  Gifts are the norm at showers and as my Mom told me this weekend when I started my registry, they are "to start your life together". I feel strange having a shower but my Mom insists and like she says if people don't want to come they don't have to and if they do, they don't have to bring you a gift. 

 

My point is no matter how many parties you have I'm sure you're not coercing your guests to give you gifts, can't people just be happy and celebrate for one another without thinking someone has a selfish ulterior motive???   

Exactly!!! Like I didn't even put my registry information on my STDs or Invites and no one even knows about the registry. Man now I want a bridal shower!

[hclibby1982]

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

Exactly!!! Like I didn't even put my registry information on my STDs or Invites and no one even knows about the registry. Man now I want a bridal shower!

I didn't put mine on there either.  I know my Mom insists on having a shower and I figure she can put where I'm registered on the shower invites. It's also listed on my website. 

 

I felt really guilty having one at first but it was My mom's idea, she said just because I was having a DW didn't mean I should miss out on a shower. I don't think she meant gift wise I think she just meant every girl should get a shower.  I'm on board with it now 

 

Maybe someone is planning one for you and you just don't know it.  I don't do surprises so they knew I would need to know at least that it was happening haha.

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Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

 

Your up late

I think I feel asleep right after I wrote that hahah

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or fell hahah

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Originally Posted by shugapop1 

 

 

Use ur imagination.

Lol

I kind of thought that is what you meant ..... but well IDK hahah 

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Originally Posted by cocoluv 

 

Newbie signing in from Harlem, NYC... Wedding date is July 10, 2014 (postponed from August 26, 2012).. Very excited to be in this planning phase. Loving ALL of the ideas that you ladies have been sharing. So grateful for the wealth of info and looking forward to this journey. Congratulations to all of you!!!

                                                                                                                                           

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Originally Posted by happywife 

 

Hey ladies, I finally made up my mind on the venue Blue Venado waiting to hear if it will be available for our date and then we will take it from there... I was going back and forth on this because  I could not find enough pics on it but I finally found the perfect thread on it and I am convinced!!!! Now on to finding a not too big All inclusive resort for our guests... something where we will not get lost, LOL and its family friendly ( and of course not too expensive) any suggestions???

I have no suggestions... but YAY for you!!!!!

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Originally Posted by niknic456 

 

I don't post much in this thread but u girls help get me thru my work day and wedding stress with your hilarious post.

 

I'm Nikki from Jersey and I'm getting married April 26,2014 @ Now Sapphire, approx 40 guests...90% completed with planning....I want to get the planning out the way and focus on things like getting in a 2 piece bikini...lol

   Welcome and here's to looking good in that bikini  

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Originally Posted by pzl101 

 

HELP ladies!! I'm second guessing myself and my decision now and stressing out ....

 

We each have a very big family and since we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we decided to have a small wedding - inviting only immediate family and our best friends.

 

I told my mom last night and she was very disappointed - not angry but more sad. She's the eldest of all my aunts and uncles and I'm her first child getting married so she expected/wants me to have a big party where I invite everyone. On my side alone, it will be 60 people ... add in my FI's family, it will be over 120! We don't want to offend any relative by picking and choosing certain ones that we are closer to so we decided we won't invite anyone.

 

I explained to my mom that we couldn't afford to have a big wedding and she even offered to give me money (mind you, she's a seamstress working in a factory in NYC that is practically a sweatshop so she makes NO money)  So now I'm feeling guilty that my mom really wants this that she is willing to give me the little money she does have...

 

I know not everyone will go but I think most will surprise us and go. I'm not sure what to do... should we just chance it and invite everyone and put it upon them to see if they will make it or not?  Or should we just stick to our original plans and hope everyone understands ...

 

We will invite everyone out to dinner when we get back from the wedding - it won't be the same as a big AHR or a typical Chinese wedding banquet so I'm not sure if that will satisfy my family ( who are pretty traditional)

 

 I only see my relatives once a year at Christmas so we're not very close ... it's more about etiquette and tradition ...

I say don't invite more then you can afford to come... so stick with your plan!  When you do that dinner at home after.. maybe wear your dress and put lots of pics up so people can get to see what it was all about!