Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

[MissJali]

hmm im not sure those are allowed in flights to dr tho. according to JetBlue "boxes" aren't allowed on flights to dr/haiti ugh! whatever, I'm just going to buy hardshell luggage and check in/carry on. the bottles for mamajuana are going empty and will be filled up over there so that's not an issue, I'll just put the tumblers inside a hardshell suitcase in bubblewrap and check-in. screw it! we only.get married once (hopefully) btw rayn, I say invite your aunt and forget about the rest!

[brownsugarbride]

Rayn-

  This is YOUR wedding.  This is your HUBBY'S wedding.  You invite who you please and don't worry about obligatory invites.  I felt no compunction about leaving cousins off the invite list either (but feel bad I can't invite all of my friends).  As the only cousin I'm inviting said when I was planning to have the wedding at home instead of abroad: "it's a cold world at $75 a plate!"

[Recy]

Originally Posted by RaynDrop 

 

Oh you just reminded me that I saw a post on here from a bride that packed all her stuff in bins ... like rubber maid bins (cheapish ones) ... checked them as luggage but then she just left them at her destination .. since they were only 5 bucks or so a piece she didn't mind leaving them... Maybe do that instead of luggage??

This sounds like a wonderful idea. I wonder if I can do this going to Jamaica!!!! I wouldnt mind leaving them either.

[SoonMrsD]

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

hmm im not sure those are allowed in flights to dr tho. according to JetBlue "boxes" aren't allowed on flights to dr/haiti ugh! whatever, I'm just going to buy hardshell luggage and check in/carry on. the bottles for mamajuana are going empty and will be filled up over there so that's not an issue, I'll just put the tumblers inside a hardshell suitcase in bubblewrap and check-in. screw it! we only.get married once (hopefully)

 

 

btw rayn, I say invite your aunt and forget about the rest!

 

What about the labels for the mamajuana? Where did you get mini bottles?

[hclibby1982]

Originally Posted by RaynDrop 

 

Okay ladies -  I need some sound advice from you all. (This might be kind of long - Sorry)

 

As you know I have a small invite list!  I didn't want to have to deal with "obligation invites"  Which is what made me decided on Parents and Sibling only!  My BFF is more like a sister to me then my sisters (not because I have any issues with them --they are my half sister and we never lived near each other so only in recent years now that they are "adults" have we gotten closer) and of course I couldn't invite a friend without having my FI invite a friend.  so that is where our guest list came from.

 

So all along my FI wanted to invite one of my Aunt & Uncle (one of my Dad's Sister)  and as much as I liked the idea it went against my rule... I didn't want to break my rule because I thought once I break it what's to say we don't keep breaking it.

 

As I have mentioned before my Sisters most likely wont be attending.... I get they might not be able to and that is fine -  what bothers me is that they were kind of rude when we told them (long story).   

 

One thing that bothered me about when we told them was that we were with my Aunt and Uncle - Who are VERY excited for us!  We had told them the night before we told my sisters because we knew they would be with us when we told my sisters.   They understood about the small ceremony and are happy they will be invited to the AHR.

 

So then I find out that the day after we told my sisters - My Aunt & Uncle had a conversation with my Step Mom about how happy they are for us and how amazing our wedding is going to be and how they would love to go but they totally understand about why we are doing what we are doing. 

 

This kind of breaks my heart because they sat there and watched my sisters be little Bs about the whole thing all while being so happy for us.

 

My point ---- I have been playing around with the idea of inviting them (I already have the plan on how to invite them with out it coming across like they are a second thought - so that is not an issue)  This will also mean we will invite my FIs Aunt who is his Godmother.. but she will probably not come anyways (he is fine with that - and I don't mind inviting her too if we do this)

 

My issue with inviting them is that I feel like this is opening up that door I didn't want open.  My Dad has another sister whom I am not as close with (I moved around a lot my whole life and am not really close to any of my family) and don't want to invite just to invite

Plus, she has two daughters but again I don't want to start inviting everyone - so cousins are out.  Plus so & so and so & so... you see where this is going. . . 

 

My FI wanted to invite them from the get go - but now that he knows I am thinking about it he says "Its your family - your decision"

I don't want to ask my Dad his opinion because he wanted me to invite them from the moment we told him our news. 

 

Lastly, selfishly, because my sisters might not be going it brings my inclusions down a level - meaning I would have to pay for some stuff that would otherwise be included so they would fill that gap.  However, it is not the only reason I am thinking about inviting them.

 

I know it is MY rule so it's not like I have to answer to anyone ... I am just really torn.

 

Any kind thoughts are welcomed : ) Thanks Friends!

 

 

*and breath* heheh

I think you should go with your gut, I'm sure it's telling you something. I see no problem inviting your Aunt and Uncle if you're really close to them and not inviting others in your family. Do what feels right to you!

 

It can be hard though, I understand, other people may give you some flack but stick to what you feel is right for you guys, it's YOUR wedding.

 

We said only parents and siblings (for family anyway) but we invited one of my FI uncles and his wife. That Uncle is more like his best friend because they're only 3 years apart (yes that means my FI grandmother and mom were pregnant just a few years apart, strange!).  He's going to be a groomsmen and it may not make sense to others that we didn't invite all of his Uncles but that's what felt right to us and I don't regret the decision.

[hclibby1982]

Originally Posted by DeeP10 

 

 

I want to just confuse the crap out of my family and friends. I'd like to jump the broom, have a hupa, light some unity candles and maybe even have a hora . If I could do that Greek money dance where people throw money at you... Ill take two please ! Lmao

My best friend is Greek and when she got married, I said to my FI (bf at the time) I've never seen this dance but if we get married I want to do this dance through half the reception. We'll keep going until we get our money back hahaha. There was money being thrown on the floor by everyone and the children were just gathering it up for them and I'm not talking $1 bills, I'm talking $20's and $50's. Then again her family has a lot more money than mine so I'd probably be getting dollars or quarters thrown at me hahaha.

[MissJali]

Originally Posted by SoonMrsD 

 

 

What about the labels for the mamajuana? Where did you get mini bottles?

As I type, I was ordering the labels from vistaprint. I got the bottles from sandblast i think 50 for like $24.50. They're plastic tho

[SoonMrsD]

Originally Posted by MissJali 

As I type, I was ordering the labels from vistaprint. I got the bottles from sandblast i think 50 for like $24.50. They're plastic tho

 

Plastic is fine, it will be gone before vacation is over hahaha

 

Youa re full of great ideas! You will here from me all until I figure this wedding planning out haha

[tyrebride2b2013]

This sounds like a wonderful idea. I wonder if I can do this going to Jamaica!!!! I wouldnt mind leaving them either.

The bride did get married in jamaica her planning thread and review was awesome. You should really check it out..Alexis was her name

[shugapop1]

Ok crazy ladies , I meant a chuppa as in the Jewish arch to get married under not a hookah to smoke up with. But, it's a good idea. Lol

Lol Chupa? And we got hookah! So you see where our mind went straight to the left. Lol