Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

[pzl101]

My FI was not all involved until this weekend when we finally sat down and compared resort packages and listed extra costs etc to see how much this weeding will cost and he is shocked! he had no clue and now we're not sure if we can even afford this! :(

 

We both want something small but we're disagreeing on certain splurges. My #1 thing is photography but he can't believe it will cost up to 5k for a good photography package. He doesn't care about flowers/chairs/chuppas/sashes etc. he just wants his parents and sister there on the beach

 

He keeps saying "we don't need that, we don't need that etc"

 

sigh ...

Originally Posted by DeeP10 


He's actually waaaaaaay more involved than that. Remember he wants to have the wedding I want to elope. Hahaha. He's super picky on photography and is all like " I need to read and look up all the djs" . Blah blah. " I like those passport invites" . Probably wants to be more involved than I'd like... But, everything is for the future. I'm like.. hELLOOO. We need to give ppl the heads up. Especially with a 110 person invite list. :0(

 

Originally Posted by DeeP10 

Is anyone else slightly frustrated with their FI lack of sense of urgency . Mine wants to be let in on everything but I feel like he's mentally Pinteresting everything. 1 yr and 3 monthsnisnan eternity away so he's like yeah yeah " save the dates " those are nice for when we are ready to send them . Aughhhhhh

 

Originally Posted by RaynDrop 


I would like to say that mine has been like that ever since we started planning a wedding.... however, he is always like that HA!

I have to either wait til he is in the mood to talk or trick him into listen to me when I want to ask him something and he isn't in the mood. Pouting works - but can't do it all the time cause that just annoys him HAHA

One day when he was giving me the "yeah yeah yeah" I stopped talking - waiting a minute then said "do you want me to just plan everything by myself so I don't have to be bothered with trying to talk to you and get your opinion - cause that would be easier for me OR do you want to have a say in Your wedding - I just don't want to bother you if I don't have to" I was sure to say this with no attitude so he didn't get defensive. his reply "I want to be involved!" so I told him fine and that I will run things by him before I proceed but if he doesn't have time to listen I will just move on in whatever way I want...... he hasn't given me the "yeah yeah yeah" since.

They need to feel like it was their idea - so I know he thinks I ask him because he told me he wants to be involved.... I know he still isn't always listening.. so if I need to I'll pout

He did actually ask me one day "don't you have friends to talk to about this stuff" So if yours says that tell him YES - BDW so don't bother me while I'm on in.. even if it is "all the time" HAHAH

[MissJali]

I have a question,

 

was just talking to one of my coworkers and apparently there's these things called wedding loans? Anyone ever look into that?

[pzl101]

Originally Posted by DeeP10 

 

I did that a few times. Said you know... This was your idea. Listen to meeeeee. Then I feel like crap cuz he looks a little hurt that I'm not all psyched to declare my undying devotion in front of the world. Lol. I'm such a B sometimes .lol. We are trying to squeeze in a trip to see some of the resorts next month. Plus we have a loooooong time planned trip to New Zealand and Australia in October. Been planning and saving for a year . It's MY DREAM trip! Also why I haven't thrown in the wedding towel. He's sucking it up for me and spending a mini fortune to go. :0/

wow!!! you have a lot going on - good for you to be treating youself with the trip! (and so jealous you get to check out the resorts ahead of time!)

[shugapop1]

Quote:

Originally Posted by MissJali 

I have a question,

 

was just talking to one of my coworkers and apparently there's these things called wedding loans? Anyone ever look into that?

 

I've never heard of it, but i'm gonna have to check into that.

[pzl101]

Originally Posted by RaynDrop 

 

 

I can't look at air fare yet.... so I have no idea.. I feel like of bad for my guest - I was able to give them a starting price on the minimum room stay but we all have to wait to find out flight charges.

 

I say if you want to and can afford to splurge Go for it.

 

Get a quote for two options and then figure out what comes with the more expensive option - see if it feels like it is worth it It is your wedding after all heheheh

I also feel bad for the guests ... our #1 choice is Secrets which isn't totally over the top but is pricier than other Jamaica options. 

 

But at the same time, it's our wedding and we feel that is the best option for us .. now hopefully, we can get a date ...

[pzl101]

Originally Posted by DeeP10 

 

 

We are going to be frugal on this I think...

 

I'm a flight attendant so although I fly relatively free I'm going to purchase our flights to DR. So we aren't standby. ( he's so spoiled now he was like " we are going to buy a flight? ) hahaha. I gave him " the look" no Hun , we are going to go Standby to our own wedding and Pray we get on . If not ! People can just party without us". Lol!

 

But we will probably non rev back. Every dollar helps. He'll that can even pay for my fire show. :0)

the room I have to decide on. Probably wont do much more than an upgraded room. On our honeymoon whenever that will be , I'll go big!

LOL, that's so funny! I can't imagine being on standby holding your dress as your carry-on just waiting to be called!

 

I have a feeling most resorts will upgrade you when you check in since you're getting married there ... anyone else think the same?

[MissJali]

Originally Posted by shugapop1 

 

 

I've never heard of it, but i'm gonna have to check into that.

I would hope not to use it but it's a nice backup if it comes down to it! 

[pzl101]

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

Im going to think about it, we're def getting an upgraded room, i dont care too much for first class esp at the ridiculous rates they charge you. But we're not splurging too much on the wedding, mil is paying for the full dj package with the fire show and my parents are taking care of the photographer so im thinking the basic air/hotel package for the basic room is about $1600 for the 7 nights, we could spend a little more ti get a better room altho all of the rooms are great lol. Supposedly fi's grandfather is payong for our honeymoon to st. Vincent, since the fiance is from there and we'll head over to the grenadines but we'll see.

 

We're also looking at possibly just buying a condo/coop since it comes out about the same as rent here in nyc smh

honeymoon in st vincents??? amazing! i would love to check out the smaller islands!

[pzl101]

AHHHHHHHHHHHH I JUST REALIZED I HIT 150!!! 

 

xoxo to all of you ladies!

 

cheers to us in 2014 !!!!

[pzl101]

Originally Posted by MissJali 

 

 

Yep all inclusive is the only way i can travel lol. I cant count how much id spend on food and drins for 7 nights lol

we were debating back and forth about an AI or not and in the end, we figured AI was just easier for everybody. don't have to think, just eat, drink, tan, swim and repeat!