Iberostar Bavaro 2013

[AndyB]

Hi Cherri,

My fiance and I will marry one month before the ceremony here in the states (NC). No one will ever know the difference but you and your husband, it will be much cheaper and safer. So instead of paying for a wedding (civil) you will then pay for and have a symbolic ceremony for friends and family members (it will cost us 20 dollars to get married at the local county court house). If you decide to have the Civil Ceremony in Punta Cana, ask the WC to give you the website that you need to go to for this information. This is one of the reasons why I am having the Symbolic verses Civil. Hope that this helps you out and good luck!

[cherri]

Andy, Thank you for this. I know I was thinking the same thing about getting married here first but then when is your real wedding date is it the date you did it here or in punta Cana? That's what I was trying to avoid but def want it to be legal here and be able to switch my name without any problems. I wish I could talk to someone that already went through it to see how it went... But it might turn out I would have to do the same thing.... When is your big day? Thanks again.. And is anyone doing a civil wedding I would love to know if you have any information

[AndyB]

Well my fiancé asked the question, when will we celebrate our anniversary. ((((drum roll))) our anniversary will be the day that we marry legally. July 27th is the symbolic day in punta Cana and what we have decided to do is vacation to beautiful places on that day every year.. Kind of keeps the fire going lol

[missroxy]

Hi ladies, I'm also opting for a symbolic ceremony, we'll be doing the ''real'' one here about a month before we leave. We have decided that we will celebrate our anniversaries each year on the date of the symbolic and we also plan to travel every year around that time  

 

OK now I need to announce something and vent a little ha ha, I learned yesterday that my only sister (MOH & bestfriend) is pregnant...... and guess when she would be due ???? YEP, exactly the date that we leave for Punta Cana..................................... 

[cherri]

Thanks ladies for your input... I am doing research for a civil ceremony in Dominican Republic but want to make sure it's legal in the states? I am nervous about doing it down there but it's really what I want to do... Do you guys have any advise?missroxy how did you decide to do a symbolic ceremony instead of a civil ceremony just curious if you don't mind...omg that is crazy news when is your wedding again... What are the odds that she would be due the same time.. Aww sorry to hear that but you will still have an amazing time and then you will get to come home and spend all the time in the world with the new bundle of joy... Good luck

[missroxy]

Originally Posted by cherri 

 

Thanks ladies for your input... I am doing research for a civil ceremony in Dominican Republic but want to make sure it's legal in the states? I am nervous about doing it down there but it's really what I want to do... Do you guys have any advise?missroxy how did you decide to do a symbolic ceremony instead of a civil ceremony just curious if you don't mind...omg that is crazy news when is your wedding again... What are the odds that she would be due the same time.. Aww sorry to hear that but you will still have an amazing time and then you will get to come home and spend all the time in the world with the new bundle of joy... Good luck

I'm getting married in October (the 2nd). As for the symbolic wedding... at first I was into the legal procedure because I really wanted that day to be our official date. First thing that discourage me was that I would have to wait and see for the judge availability, at that time I wanted to reserve my date right away to be able to send my save the date. Second thing was that I didn't want to pay all the extra fees for translation of document, go to notary for some kind of declaration and then have to send our passports + 2 as witness at the embassy... and then once we are married, wait a good 6 months for the certificate to come by mail and then get it translated and then try and register it..... All of that, was too much for me to handle, I already have enough stress to deal with, I want everything to be smooth and simple. By getting married here, I don't have any translation to do, and I get my paper in a couple of weeks if not days. 

 

Do what's best for you.... but keep in mind that you won't have your certificate quickly after the wedding. 

[cherri]

Thanks missroxy. Yes I am still debating civil or symbolic but wish I could talk to someone who had a civil ceremony or going to have a a civil just so I could see how it was... Yea the only thing about the symbolic ceremony is that I didn't want the date I got really married at here to be our actual wedding date... I don't mind waiting for the marriage certificate but care more about if everything is legal here if I do everything there.. So confused

[AndyB]

Cherri, Your wedding will be legal if you marry in the DR. But like Missroxy explained tou, there will be some bumps and curves that will be in your way. If being married in the DR is really what you want to do then please do it. I'm sure that all will turn out for you. Missroxy, what are you lol going to do? Lol I have informed everyone one of my guest last summer not to have any plans on making babies until after the wedding lol.. At least she can witness the civil ceremony in your state.. Lol

[missroxy]

Originally Posted by AndyB 

 

Cherri,

 

Your wedding will be legal if you marry in the DR. But like Missroxy explained tou, there will be some bumps and curves that will be in your way. If being married in the DR is really what you want to do then please do it. I'm sure that all will turn out for you. Missroxy, what are you lol going to do? Lol I have informed everyone one of my guest last summer not to have any plans on making babies until after the wedding lol.. At least she can witness the civil ceremony in your state.. Lol

Yeah... I don't know.. I'm really pissed.. now that I know that it's not an accident... anyways.. every morning I wake up with new plans. At first my parents told me to keep my date which I agreed on, and the day after they told me that they know me, and my sister and I being so close, I would regret all my life if she wasn't next to me...So I thought of pushing it a month or even doing it here (thing I NEVER wanted) and then this morning I kinda want to cancel the whole thing. I'm feeling pushed in a corner, like my wedding is now an inconvenient for everyone you know ?!... Also, being 4 years older, I always thought I'd give my parents their first grand child... so maybe jealousy is kicking in also.. We always wanted to be on mat leave together.. and now she went and did this argh... Maybe I should just get married next week and be over with.

 

Anyways as you see, I'm not thinking clear right now.. and it doesn't help that FI is pissed as well and hard headed and doesn't want to move the date.

[AndyB]

Awwww! I feel bad for you! But I'm going to suggest this to you.. If you truly believe that your sister made plans to have her baby, then you should continue on with your wedding plans.. Listen to your husband to be.. Also, don't be jealous about the fact who gives your parents the first grand child, because all grand babies are special to their grand parents whether being first, middle or last.