At Home Receptions

[Lillie09]

Is everyone having an AHR. I had no idea about these until I joined this site.

 

I'm getting married in July 2009 with close family and very close friends in Turks and Caicos. My FH and I are then getting married in my local parish anywhere between August and September. We are just having our parents, grandmothers, siblings, and 2 of my aunts and cousins going to this Church wedding. Then we will be going out to dinner. Nothing fancy, and as far as i know my FH and I are most likely paying for this as well.

Do we invite the people who couldn't make it to our wedding in T&C to this Church/Restaurant wedding? We were considering not telling anyone we were doing this. I guess it depends on how much money we have/will be making.

 

So what's the etiquette?? Thank you all so much!

[beachbride08]

We are not having one. I have a really large family and did not want to have a big wedding which is why we are going the DW route. We are also paying for everything on our own, and would rather put our money towards a house than a party at home. I know some others are having AHRs so I guess it is up to you if you want one and an affod to have one.

[Spazz]

There's no right or wrong thing to do in regards to AHRs. It's totally up to you what you want to do. I was going to have one, but then decided against it because for me it's just too much to plan and pay for.

[MsShelley]

we are having one, and our decision came based upon most of FI's family not going... we are just doing a very casual party, nothing formal, just to had a good time with our family and friends that can't make it...

[Jenn]

We were thinking about having one, but decided to save the money for a house. We'll hopefully have a housewarming/"we got married" party a few months after the wedding

[LCBride2007]

there was no way we were going to have one ... i didn't want to plan anything else! it's really up to you what you want to do.

[MelissaH]

we had one, but it was just a really simple backyard party

it was sooo much fun and i'm really glad we did it!!

[rodent]

I thought we had to have one, so I told everyone we would. I'm not really excited about it because it's one more thing to plan & pay for. If I had to do over, I probably wouldn't have said we'd do one in the first place.

 

But, if we are going to do it we are keeping it cheap & simple. It will just be a BBQ at a park. This will be in Texas where our family is. In north carolina where we live & have a bunch of friends, we are having a house party. That's something I can get excited about. The Texas party feels more like a chore and obligation.

 

I don't think you need to have an AHR & if you do I don't think it needs to be formal.

[Lorilou]

We are having one and inviting those who aren't making it to Puerto Vallarta wedding to the AHR and basically to please my parents (my mom really). But they are paying for it whereas we are paying for the majority of the DW.

[*JillD*]

We thought about having one and people kept asking if we were going to have one, but then we just decided we didn't want one. We don't need to spend any more money!