Friends' Questions and Requirements for the Wedding

carori · July 10, 2012

I know my friends just want to be involved... most of them live across the world, so their way is to ask me a lot of questions: did you pick a dress? will you have bridesmaids? will you do this or that?

The thing is, when my answers are not what they would do in their weddings then they keep asking: but why??!!!! it's so "IN" now!! :S

Well, I don't really care about what is "IN" !!! I just want to have my wedding as I envisioned it! Why can't they just accept that, and well... keep your ideas for YOUR wedding! ARGG!

I think I'm exaggerating.. but it's still annoying!

The most annoying one is from one that wants to be a bridesmaid... but guess what? I don't want to have bridesmaids! I know that in the U.S. everyone has them, but I'm not from the U.S.! And she either!!! We are from another country, where apparently suddenly everyone has bridesmaids. Well, sorry but the trend is just not for me. I didn't want bridesmaids before, it was never my dream or anything, so I won't. So, I told her that, and now she says that "well, it's ok, since I'm sure I will be a witness" UHH... NO! we will only have 2 and she won't be one of them, it will be my sister and someone from my FI's family, period.

I don't know how not to sound so rude about this with my friend, but I just don't consider my wedding the occasion where I have to start giving my best friends to have a "main role", it's my FI and my day!

Anyone having similar problems?

maridr2012 · July 27, 2012

LOL...this is kinda funny but kinda not. Sorry you're having a tough time with all the questions and opinions and your friend assuming she's involved in the wedding. I think all of us brides go thru this to some degree. I suggest to telling her you want something very simple and not alot of fuss or big production with a wedding party, and the only person you're having as a witness is your sister and your FI's relative because they are FAMILY, and they would be extremely hurt if they weren't the witnesses. Hopefully she'll understand. But, to make it a bit funny, tell her she's more than welcome to throw you a huge bridal shower and a even bigger bachelorette party! LOL. good luck!

wallabymeisje · August 11, 2012

maybe you can find a task that she will excel in you sound lucky to have such a great friend and she sounds like she wants to help out and be part of your day