Announcements at same time as invites

[FIFAbride]

Is it okay to send out announcements at the same time as invites?  No one is attending our wedding and our AHR is just immediate family and a handful of life long friends.  We have had a lot of people asking when they will receive info about our wedding and where we are registered even though they know we are not having a ceremony or party for them to attend.  What are your thoughts?

[ChocoTaco7568]

Are talking about save the dates? Announcements are a post wedding formality.

[ChocoTaco7568]

Oops sent that before I was done... Are you doing an engagement announcement?

[FIFAbride]

We are not doing an engagement announcement.  I know traditionally wedding announcements are sent after the fact however with our event being so low key we were hoping to it out prior to our wedding.  Again, we have had a lot of people asking us what our plans are and what they can get us, even though they know there is no party in it for them.

 

What if I worded the announcement as we were engaged on the date and will be married on this date?

[Mufin1785]

what is the rush on sending the annoucements?  We are sending out wedding invitations out as the same time as our AHR invitations.  We are not send out annoucements, majority of AHR guests are not attending the DW, but I want everyone to feel included. 

[FIFAbride]

We don't have wedding invites because we are going all the way to Tahiti.  Only 20 people are invited to the AHR and we would like everyone else to feel included and aware of what is going on.

[maridr2012]

Hmmm...  Etiquette says that wedding announcements are sent after the wedding and its only sent to those folks who weren't invited to the wedding but you still want to share your special news with.  I personally wouldn't bother sending an announcement for that reason.  I submitted an engagement announcement to our local newspaper a few months after we got engaged and we had picked a date & location so it could be printed in the engagement announcement in the newspaper.  We are not having an AHR.  So, we invited only those folks who we really wanted to attend (120 people, I still cant get over that!).  All of the invited guests won't be able to attend, but at least they got an invitation.  For those folks who we would've wanted to invite had it been a traditional wedding at home, we are sending wedding announcements.  

 

Again.. that's what "etiquette says".  But...these days, go with whatever you want to do!  : )

[maridr2012]

Correction:  I personally wouldn't bother with sending wedding announcements until after the wedding and would only send them to those people who weren't invited to the DW or AHR.