Who gets an "And guest"?

[Peach]

This might be a silly question, but I was wondering who gets the "and guest" invites... all single people? I know that destination weddings are a little different...

I have 3 siblings. One is an adult, 25, but lives with my parents. Another is 19 and temporarily away for school. Then there is my sister, who is also my maid of honour, and will be 17 when I get married, obviously a student currently (will just have graduated high school at that time), and living with my parents.

None of them have very significant others, or any really, besides my sister.

My parents have said they do not want to commit to coming, so I kind of want my siblings to be invited separate from my parents.

I have absolutely no problem with them bringing a "plus one", I am just not sure if I should send one invitation to my parents and include my siblings on the invite, since they all basically are still living there, or if I should send one out to each of them, or if I should include "and guest" or not...?

 

What do you think?

[JayKay]

I would send one invitation to each of your siblings.  My two brothers live together, but I still sent them their own invitations so they received one.  That way they are getting the invitation and not just second hand information.  And whether or not to include the plus one, I basically told my brothers (whom neither were in a serious relationship at the time) that if they wanted to bring someone they could, but in the end neither of them did.

Originally Posted by Peach 

This might be a silly question, but I was wondering who gets the "and guest" invites... all single people? I know that destination weddings are a little different...

I have 3 siblings. One is an adult, 25, but lives with my parents. Another is 19 and temporarily away for school. Then there is my sister, who is also my maid of honour, and will be 17 when I get married, obviously a student currently (will just have graduated high school at that time), and living with my parents.

None of them have very significant others, or any really, besides my sister.

My parents have said they do not want to commit to coming, so I kind of want my siblings to be invited separate from my parents.

I have absolutely no problem with them bringing a "plus one", I am just not sure if I should send one invitation to my parents and include my siblings on the invite, since they all basically are still living there, or if I should send one out to each of them, or if I should include "and guest" or not...?

 

What do you think?

[katman]

I agree with JayKay - I would definitely send each of your siblings their own invitations. First off, it makes it feel a little bit more special for them knowing that you think of them as adults and important people to be involved in your special day. And secondly, some people like to hang-on to wedding invites as keepsakes, so this gives that option to each of your sibs.
 

As for the "plus one"...I'm struggling with this as well. A lot of our guests will be a younger crowd, and quite a few of them are single/not in serious relationships. As our guests will be paying their own travel expenses, I feel that we should offer the "plus 1" option (although the more people the more extras we will have to add to our wedding package of course). What's the norm for single guests for a DW?
Anyone have experience with this?

 

 

Originally Posted by Peach 

This might be a silly question, but I was wondering who gets the "and guest" invites... all single people? I know that destination weddings are a little different...

I have 3 siblings. One is an adult, 25, but lives with my parents. Another is 19 and temporarily away for school. Then there is my sister, who is also my maid of honour, and will be 17 when I get married, obviously a student currently (will just have graduated high school at that time), and living with my parents.

None of them have very significant others, or any really, besides my sister.

My parents have said they do not want to commit to coming, so I kind of want my siblings to be invited separate from my parents.

I have absolutely no problem with them bringing a "plus one", I am just not sure if I should send one invitation to my parents and include my siblings on the invite, since they all basically are still living there, or if I should send one out to each of them, or if I should include "and guest" or not...?

 

What do you think?

[JayKay]

We had a couple single guests to our wedding and we gave them the option of bringing a guest.  We left the term guest wide open so it could include say a brother or sister or something.  All our single guests chose to come alone, and in the end had to pay more for a single room as they were on there own. 

Originally Posted by katman 

I agree with JayKay - I would definitely send each of your siblings their own invitations. First off, it makes it feel a little bit more special for them knowing that you think of them as adults and important people to be involved in your special day. And secondly, some people like to hang-on to wedding invites as keepsakes, so this gives that option to each of your sibs.
 

As for the "plus one"...I'm struggling with this as well. A lot of our guests will be a younger crowd, and quite a few of them are single/not in serious relationships. As our guests will be paying their own travel expenses, I feel that we should offer the "plus 1" option (although the more people the more extras we will have to add to our wedding package of course). What's the norm for single guests for a DW?
Anyone have experience with this?

 

 

[Peach]

Thanks for the advice!

Here is my other question, then... If I send one to each of my siblings, (which I am thinking is the right way to go), should I mail all the ones to one house together? Like, in one envelope? Or separately? I like the idea of doing it separately, but am not sure if they would all arrive on the same date. (Glorious postal service). Does that matter?

[JayKay]

My brothers live together and I sent them each one individually.  I wasnt worried that they woudln't arrive the same time, at least they will each get their own addressed to them.

Originally Posted by Peach 

Thanks for the advice!

Here is my other question, then... If I send one to each of my siblings, (which I am thinking is the right way to go), should I mail all the ones to one house together? Like, in one envelope? Or separately? I like the idea of doing it separately, but am not sure if they would all arrive on the same date. (Glorious postal service). Does that matter?

[Peach]

Originally Posted by JayKay 

 

My brothers live together and I sent them each one individually.  I wasnt worried that they woudln't arrive the same time, at least they will each get their own addressed to them.

Okay. Perfect! Thank you!

[katman]

Originally Posted by JayKay 

 

We had a couple single guests to our wedding and we gave them the option of bringing a guest.  We left the term guest wide open so it could include say a brother or sister or something.  All our single guests chose to come alone, and in the end had to pay more for a single room as they were on there own. 

 

Thanks for the reply   If any of your single guests HAD decided to bring a +1, would you have had them at the wedding reception etc? I feel it would be rude not to, but at the same time if it puts us over budget by adding the extra meals etc... although, maybe I'm just over thinking it...if they come, they should be invited. The more the merrier I suppose

[JayKay]

We would have had the plus ones at the wedding events.  I think it would have been pretty rude not to.  Like you I was worried that it would put us over our budget, but we didnt have many single guests at all.  I guess it depends how many extras it could mean (for us it was 3 at the most) so it wouldnt have really affected much in regards to budget.

Originally Posted by katman 

 

Thanks for the reply   If any of your single guests HAD decided to bring a +1, would you have had them at the wedding reception etc? I feel it would be rude not to, but at the same time if it puts us over budget by adding the extra meals etc... although, maybe I'm just over thinking it...if they come, they should be invited. The more the merrier I suppose

[Mlite83]

I agree with what JayKay has already said - definitely send each sib their own invite (sent individually).  We did that even to people who were living with parents still (my younger sister and his younger brother) and I think they both appreciated it as they felt recognized as opposed to an add on to a parent invite.  We also gave our younger sibs (and any singles) the option to bring a guest....not sure how many will use that option but again I thought it was a nice gesture and splitting a room with a friend is cheaper than the single supplement.  Plus we thought single guests would appreciate the opportunity to bring a plus 1 (ie friend, sibling, date) since it is a week of vacation we want them to enjoy!