AHR & Send Off Party

Mufin1785 · May 7, 2012

We are planning on having an At Home Reception about a month after we return from DW. But I have now been toying with the idea of a "Send Off Party" the weekend before we go to DR. We are not having any bridal or couple showers, or engagement parties. So I wanted to have an informal get together before we so people not attending could give well wishes before we get married. This would give our families a chance to get to know each other and I wanted to prepare a slide show with a picture time line of FI and my life up until the point we meet each other.

Id having a Send Off and a AHR too much??

boscobel · May 7, 2012

For me personally, that would be too much. I wouldn't want to take on planning another function! By the time we got back from our wedding and still had things to do for the AHR, I was so fried and just over wedding stuff. So I wouldn't want to fry myself out before my wedding.

And as a guest, I might also think it's too much b/c it's a lot of time to spend for one function. But with my husbands schedule and the amount of family functions that we always have, our calendars are pretty full, so again that's a personal preference since it would be hard to fit all of that in.

I'm a big believe of, you do what you want. If you want to plan a going away party as well as an AHR, then you should plan it and people can choose to come or not to come. This is your wedding and it should make you happy and if having your family and friends see you prior to your wedding to give you well wishes, then plan it up!

sbg75 · May 8, 2012

I agree with Carly. It sounds like a lot of planning and possibly quite a lot of time commitments for other people. I could imagine a get together with some of your nearest and dearest might be nice, but it depends on whether they are coming with you. Are you having a rehearsal dinner or some organised events where your families could get to know each other at your destination?

However, that said if it makes you happy - then go ahead and plan it. Only you know what your friends and family are like and they might jump at the opportunity for an additional social gathering. Perhaps you could ask a few of them if they would be able to attend both or whether it would be too much for them and then base your decision on their responses?