Bridal shower when you don't want to register??? Honeymoon registry? Advice please.

[nursebrooke]

Hi there brides!!

 

Any advice on what to do when you don't want to register? We have lived together for 3 years already. We do not need anything and I am afraid if we register we will get a bunch of stuff we don't really want or need and then being stuck with credit at a store. So I hate to register just for the sake of doing it.

 

I would never ask for money blatently but it would appear I was if I don't have a registry right?? I know that anyone coming to the wedding is MORE than enough. I am contemplating a honeymoon registry but then it seems as though we are registering for a trip we are asking everyone else to come on. We are staying an additional time after our guests leave so technically we are having a honeymoon.  

 

With that being said, I want to still have a shower mostly because there are many who are unable to come to the wedding for financial reasons and I want to be able to spend some time with them and for them to be a part of the wedding.

 

Any advice?

Thank you in advance!

[Skygirl]

im in the same situation,we have been leaving together for 5yrs, and we have everything. But i am having the shower, and everyone is asking me where i have registered. I think what im going to do, is do a very very small registry to freshen up some of my kithcen stuff and maybe do the honeyfund, like i said each item from BedBathandBeyond probably will be 5-10$, so maybe people who dont feel comfortable bringing a printout in the envelope for the honeyfund gift, can just attach it to a small storage container etc...this way i can still open something..

[nursebrooke]

I thought of that too but I am scared people will go there and then not like what they find and just pick something on their own and then you are stuck with something you don't want or store credit. I could use some freshening of some stuff but I would really just like money, without asking for it

 

Thanks for the input!

[earthri]

I think friends and family will understand that you and your new husband will want a vacation and alone-time after the wedding, so I don't think that registering your honeymoon would be too strange. If you are considering that, I would take a serious look at wanderable. They have really pretty, free registries and I just found out about them a couple days ago. 

[earthri]

I think friends and family will understand that you and your new husband will want a vacation and alone-time after the wedding, so I don't think that registering your honeymoon would be too strange. If you are considering that, I would take a serious look at wanderable. They have really pretty, free registries and I just found out about them a couple days ago. 

[earthri]

I think friends and family will understand that you and your new husband will want a vacation and alone-time after the wedding, so I don't think that registering your honeymoon would be too strange. If you are considering that, I would take a serious look at wanderable. They have really pretty, free registries and I just found out about them a couple days ago. 

[Mufin1785]

We made a honeymoon registry, that included a few traditional items as well, giving them the option to reserve a gift and buy at the store of their choice.  We included instructions on how the site works.  I feel this adds a more personal touch then just regisrtering at a store.   

 

http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/suttonwebre

[junebride41]

Try www.uponourstar.com.  You can register for "wishes" and people contribute toward your wish -- a new kitchen; furniture for the house, landscaping, a new car, etc.  You can ask people to donate in increments of as small as $20.  It's great

[TATrisha]

I was in the same place when I got married.  What we ended up doing was putting together a registry of things we really wanted but wouldn't buy for ourselves, so a Dyson vacuum, new dishes, a fancy garbage can, etc.  Everything was more expensive, so people went in together to buy things. 

 

Sure, we still ended up with some crap, but mostly we got a few really nice things.

 

Also, are you flying in a photographer for your wedding?  Ask if they have a bridal registry.  I have one for my brides.  I have family members buy wedding albums, prints, canvases, or even just help pay for the cost of the photographer all the time.  It's super awesome and what a great gift!!

[nursebrooke]

Thanks girls!! I am going to have to look into the honeyfund site.