We want our family in our bridal party, but on a very tight budget. What to do?

JennyBenz · April 30, 2012

Hi ladies! I'm hoping I can get some feedback on my dilemma regarding our bridal party. My FI and I have decided which of our friends will be a part of our party, but I'm having a problem with my family members. It would be two men & two women, along with their kids [3 in total]. They are both on very tight budgets, so I know they're doing whatever they can to be sure they can make it to our DW. As much as we want them to be a part of our bridal party, I feel almost selfish for asking them to be in it. I know how tight money is these days, so I feel even if it's a bit more money, I shouldn't or can't expect them to cough it up. My friends have told me it would be best to sit down & tell them what's on our mind and see what they say- But I feel they might have a hard time saying no, even if it becomes a financial burden. My last option would be to just have the kids in it, and I think they'd still feel honored their children are a part of it.

Help please!!

Jen

jello · April 30, 2012

Why does being a part of your bridal party have to cost more money? Let your bridesmaids / groomsmen wear clothes they already own, don't make them pay for professional hair and makeup, tell them they don't have to throw you a bridal shower or anything. You want these people to stand up with you while you take your vows because they are important to you, and they want to be there for you because they love you and support you. That's an incredibly sweet, powerful thing. Everything else is optional.

JennyBenz · April 30, 2012

Thanks so much jello =) You're absolutely right, I do have options to include them w/o having to spend extra money.

I just don't want them to have any expectations if I ask them to be it, so I guess it's best to discuss with them and go from there.

jello · April 30, 2012

Yes! It's so nice and considerate of you to not want to impose on your family. I'm sure you'll find a great, budget-friendly way to include and honor them.

JayKay · May 2, 2012

I absolutely agree with jello. It doesnt have to cost them extra money at all. We paid for our bridals partys attire and my MOH did her own makeup and hair. It should have to cost to much more if anything at all more then just coming to your wedding.