May 2013 Brides

[melnryluvco]

Originally Posted by Dazeydawl 

 

Wow!!! It seems we all have these people in our lives!!!! I have a 'friend' who i asked to be my bridesmaid when i first got engaged back in Jan 2012 who was all for the role and the trip.... i knew it might be difficult on her considering she just had a baby and was off on mat leave and her boyfriend didnt have a job so i offered to put down the deposit for her which was fine. when we went bridemaid dress shopping she had everything worked out, who would look after the baby, the fact that she would be back to work well before the trip and her boyfriend got a good job so money wouldnt be an issue, then a couple days later when it came time to purchase the dresses she said she wasnt coming!!!! my jaw dropped! She also didnt think she should have to pay me back for teh deposit on the room! She said it was because of money.... which i dont want to argue with. Only now they are starting a whole bunch of renos on their house and she just told me they are planning a trip to toronto for the same time as my wedding! I know toronto isnt as expensive but still last minute planning to toronto just 7 months out or planning to jamaica a year and 4 months out? seems she should have been able to make it work... she just doesnt want to. Then she goes on to say that she will still help with anything i need here at home, but now shes always too busy to talk to me.

 

There comes a certain point in any relationship, friends/family/intimate, where you have to ask yourself why keep giving 100% if the other person only gives less than half and is always making excuses. You can only pour so much of your heart and soul into these deadend friendships. Sorry  for the hurtfullness she caused you but it sounds like you have lots more loving friends and family!!

[melnryluvco]

Originally Posted by Kal520 

 

I totally understand everyone having to deal with rude comments and issues from people. I've had people tell me "Oh I will be pregnant in May next year" when they're not even pregnant yet! People saying "why don't you just get married here and make it easier on everyone." I had to tell a girl I'm sort of friends with that shes not invited even though she assumed it and told everyone we mutually know that she is going. I've literally had it all!! I'm down a bridesmaid too but not her fault as her and her husband are having major issues going on. I've cried over stupid crap a lot much but I'm over now, it's the wedding we want and I'm at the point where I barely even care who goes!! So I'm glad we can all be here for each other to commiserate!

 

 

Honestly, I think we're probably all there too! Of course I want people to celebrate with us but in the end it's about the journey I take with my FH. And I wouldn't know what to do without all you girls!!

[melnryluvco]

I know I'm on a post blitz here but I haven't been able to "get my fix" today

 

 

Uhura: April...May...it's all the same! We love having new people and ideas. Besides, us May brides are going to need your advice on the do's and don'ts of traveling with a dress, and organization of guests at the location, and so on! Welcome!

 

MissBubbles: You atleast have your act together. Your STD, Invites, and engagment pics are done. We don't even take our e pics till next sat, we wanted the fall foliage. Oh well, I agree with Choco I'm no one's babysitter I have enough to deal with so either  your in or your out.

 

Ok post blitz over... for now

 

[Tulumbride2013]

Wow!!! It seems we all have these people in our lives!!!! I have a 'friend' who i asked to be my bridesmaid when i first got engaged back in Jan 2012 who was all for the role and the trip.... i knew it might be difficult on her considering she just had a baby and was off on mat leave and her boyfriend didnt have a job so i offered to put down the deposit for her which was fine. when we went bridemaid dress shopping she had everything worked out, who would look after the baby, the fact that she would be back to work well before the trip and her boyfriend got a good job so money wouldnt be an issue, then a couple days later when it came time to purchase the dresses she said she wasnt coming!!!! my jaw dropped! She also didnt think she should have to pay me back for teh deposit on the room! She said it was because of money.... which i dont want to argue with. Only now they are starting a whole bunch of renos on their house and she just told me they are planning a trip to toronto for the same time as my wedding! I know toronto isnt as expensive but still last minute planning to toronto just 7 months out or planning to jamaica a year and 4 months out? seems she should have been able to make it work... she just doesnt want to. Then she goes on to say that she will still help with anything i need here at home, but now shes always too busy to talk to me.

Wow. Identical situations dazey. My moh did this. It came time to buy the dress and excuses started being made. Now she never answers my calls. She never said she wasn't gong on the trip, but she is no longer my moh, and is still stringing me along about maybe coming on the trip. It's crazy... But your right. We're all seeing the true colors of the ones we thought were our best friends.

[uhura526]

Thanks for the welcome ladies.

 

I do have another perspective with regard to guests booking early.  I think one thing is that people tend to want to book both hotel and flights at the same time and right now, this far out, flights are expensive or you actually might get a better deal later.  In fact, optimally, it's good to get flights 3 to 4 months out.  I haven't even booked our flights yet. When we travel internationally, we almost never book more than 3 months out.    I do think people should be able to just go ahead and book their accommodations though if they know they are going. In my case, the deposit is refundable!  So they have nothing to lose by committing early but again, they may be scared of the flight prices right now (they will drop!)  and are not willing to commit this far out or at least separate the two and wait to book flights.  Also in my case, they have not received invitations yet.  I have been back and forth about when to send them but decided that mid-November will work with a deadline of mid-January.  My headcount isn't due to my venue until mid-February.  

 

Ladies, don't sweat it with the flaky folks in your lives. I look at this as a good opportunity to weed out those folks moving forward into your new lives as married women.  In life, people will come and go and that's just the way it is.  Even family can't always be counted on and may need to be removed from your lives. So be it.  Just focus on those folks who are supportive and will be there for you and your FI and everything will fall into place. (okay that's what I keep telling myself lol) But really, that thought is keeping me in line at the moment. Get back to me when RSVP's are due

[ChocoTaco7568]

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Originally Posted by uhura526 

Thanks for the welcome ladies.

 

I do have another perspective with regard to guests booking early.  I think one thing is that people tend to want to book both hotel and flights at the same time and right now, this far out, flights are expensive or you actually might get a better deal later.  In fact, optimally, it's good to get flights 3 to 4 months out.  I haven't even booked our flights yet. When we travel internationally, we almost never book more than 3 months out.    I do think people should be able to just go ahead and book their accommodations though if they know they are going. In my case, the deposit is refundable!  So they have nothing to lose by committing early but again, they may be scared of the flight prices right now (they will drop!)  and are not willing to commit this far out or at least separate the two and wait to book flights.  Also in my case, they have not received invitations yet.  I have been back and forth about when to send them but decided that mid-November will work with a deadline of mid-January.  My headcount isn't due to my venue until mid-February.  

 

Flight prices are definitely scary at the moment and I agree that gas prices will drop, especially with labor day passing and the elections coming up.  The 3 to 4 month rule seems to be accurate for domestic travel, but I thought the window for internationsl is about 5-7 months out which seems to be accuraute with my previous international trip experiences.  But I'm, sure there are a lot of factors to consider as well.  I've been tracking prices like crazy for 5 different departing cities.  Oddly engough some prices have already dropped, while others departing cities have gone up... weird.

[MissBubbles205]

Originally Posted by melnryluvco 

 

I know I'm on a post blitz here but I haven't been able to "get my fix" today

 

 

Uhura: April...May...it's all the same! We love having new people and ideas. Besides, us May brides are going to need your advice on the do's and don'ts of traveling with a dress, and organization of guests at the location, and so on! Welcome!

 

MissBubbles: You atleast have your act together. Your STD, Invites, and engagment pics are done. We don't even take our e pics till next sat, we wanted the fall foliage. Oh well, I agree with Choco I'm no one's babysitter I have enough to deal with so either  your in or your out.

 

Ok post blitz over... for now

 

 lol.. your too cute. I'm addicted to this site.. I do more work and research here than my actual job. I just do it during my job. lol..

We just did Save the Date pics for our DIY magnets.. no e session yet. ( I want to do these as well but haven't had time. (

[MissBubbles205]

Originally Posted by ChocoTaco7568 

 

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Flight prices are definitely scary at the moment and I agree that gas prices will drop, especially with labor day passing and the elections coming up.  The 3 to 4 month rule seems to be accurate for domestic travel, but I thought the window for internationsl is about 5-7 months out which seems to be accuraute with my previous international trip experiences.  But I'm, sure there are a lot of factors to consider as well.  I've been tracking prices like crazy for 5 different departing cities.  Oddly engough some prices have already dropped, while others departing cities have gone up... weird.

 Now I'm worried that we booked to early... ( I can't seem to remember what exactly we paid for flights. I'll have to go look, but the prices seemed low. We are staying 8 nights, our total was 3011.00 for accomodations, flights, and transfers. We booked back in June, I believe.

[ChocoTaco7568]

Originally Posted by MissBubbles205 

 

 Now I'm worried that we booked to early... ( I can't seem to remember what exactly we paid for flights. I'll have to go look, but the prices seemed low. We are staying 8 nights, our total was 3011.00 for accomodations, flights, and transfers. We booked back in June, I believe.

 If they seemed low, than I'm sure you got a fare price. Don't torture yourself with things that are out of your control. I wish we could complete our airfare, it would be one less thing to think about. We're pretty nervous for Justin's family, they have abnormally espensive airfare rates at $700 per person round trip...Yikes!

[MissBubbles205]

Originally Posted by ChocoTaco7568 

 

 If they seemed low, than I'm sure you got a fare price. Don't torture yourself with things that are out of your control. I wish we could complete our airfare, it would be one less thing to think about. We're pretty nervous for Justin's family, they have abnormally espensive airfare rates at $700 per person round trip...Yikes!

My family is flying out of BHM and $700 is what my family will have to pay as well!! ( I'm hoping it goes down though.

Flying out of ATL is much cheaper.. I'm wanting to say we got our flights for $400. I'm trying to find my receipts.

 

One of my guests told me her quote for our DW from Tuesday-Sunday with airfare is 2300-2400. Does this seem right? I've never traveled before.