May 2013 Brides

[MissyBee]

Punta Bride, I am also having a long table, but I was thinking of sitting in the middle of the table, so we can be central to everyone.... How many ppl are you having?
 

[CourtandMatt]

Originally Posted by PuntaBride 

 

Working on my seating arrangements today!

 

My resort has told me they set up one long table.  So, I'm thinking Todd and I will sit at the end of the table.  Everyone else will be down the sides.  Any suggestions on how to organize your guests?  Who sits closest to the bride and groom?  Do you sit your wedding party together, with our without spouses?  HELP please!

 

I think it would be best to have the best man on one side and the MOH on the other side seated next to you.  I also think that you should put spouses/significant others next to each other.  I have never been to a wedding where they are separated.  So, for example, you could do on one side:  best man, date, groomsmen with their dates, groom's family, then groom's friends (or maybe switch family and friends).   Thoughts?

[CourtandMatt]

Originally Posted by melnryluvco 

 

Sheeesh! Kinda makes you feel like just eloping! Sometimes I fantasize how much easier and less stressful that would be. Ahhhh yes. Anyways, who ever "threw away your invite" is totally disrespectful. Like really? Were you raised in a barn? Like seriously are you related to Honey Boo Boos family? I would tell those who haven't RSVP'd and you know that's coming that YOU now get to chose what they'll be eating and you'll make sure to tell the resort that they get NO booze at the ceremony. You gotta make them suffer a bit....maybe even threaten them with no wedding cake  If I were you I'd get up right NOW, go pour your self some wine/beer, and watch a girly movie! Maybe even a little chocolate!

 

Thanks for your comment!  I helped myself to a big bowl of pasta and some reality TV.  It really does make me wish I had eloped, which is really what I wanted to do.  However, I did not want to have my FI miss out on a wedding since he really wanted one.  Man o man... wedding drama! 

[danak71]

Originally Posted by CourtandMatt 

 

Ladies!  I just have to vent!   Our save the dates went out in spring 2012.  Our website was out at that same time with all the travel details on it (it was even on the save the dates).  Our invites went out in early November with a "kindly reply by" date of February 1, 2013.  We sent out around 95 invites.  Guess what?? It's January 31, 2013 and I have only gotten like 30 RSVPs back!!   I am soooo frustrated.  I have spent all day and week getting everyone's status.  And, I keep hearing that they are just not sending the RSVP back (one even said they just threw away the invite when they got it 'cause they knew they weren't going).  Let me just say - I wish I had not wasted so much money and time on invitations.  I had even pre-stamped the RSVPs.  What a waste!

 

And, to make matters worse, today is the last day to book our discounted rooms and none of the groomsmen have booked!   OMG.  Wedding stress and drama!  Anyone else experiencing anything like this???  

We had the exact same timeline with respect to STD's, wedding website, invitations and RSVP date. We still have about 25 that we haven't gotten back. I did passport invitations with a boarding pass RSVP card and had several people tell me they weren't sending the card back because they wanted to keep the whole invitation as a keepsake! Which I understand and am flattered by but WTH!! Clearly I need to know whether they're coming, if they're bringing a guest, what their food selection is and whether or not they're joining us on the excursion that we're paying for! I sent out an email to everyone letting them know if they wanted to keep the RSVP card, they could just email me their meal selections and guests names. That helped a lot! But a waste of all those stamps for those that chose that option!

 

I also put together a spreadsheet today of all the people I haven't received any type of response from and sent that to one of my bridesmaids. Starting Monday she is contacting everyone on the list to get a response. If she doesn't get them, she's leaving them a message letting them know we're taking their response (or lack of) as a no and we're sorry they can't make it. And then I'm done with it because we're getting too close and people have had a year to figure this out!

 

I will say that the majority of our guests did the right thing (booked their room before the deadline, sent back their RSVP cards, etc.) but it's the other ones that wanna make me kill somebody! LOL

[KristieT]

Originally Posted by PuntaBride 

 

Working on my seating arrangements today!

 

My resort has told me they set up one long table.  So, I'm thinking Todd and I will sit at the end of the table.  Everyone else will be down the sides.  Any suggestions on how to organize your guests?  Who sits closest to the bride and groom?  Do you sit your wedding party together, with our without spouses?  HELP please!

Hi PuntaBride.

 

We are doing one long table for 35 people including the bride and groom. We are sitting right in the middle with our bridal party on either side of us (like a regular head table) and we are seating their spouses across the table from them.  We thought this was a great way to still have the head table feel,l but not seperate the spouses.

[ChocoTaco7568]

Originally Posted by PuntaBride 

 

Working on my seating arrangements today!

 

My resort has told me they set up one long table.  So, I'm thinking Todd and I will sit at the end of the table.  Everyone else will be down the sides.  Any suggestions on how to organize your guests?  Who sits closest to the bride and groom?  Do you sit your wedding party together, with our without spouses?  HELP please!

We are also having a long table and will sit in the middle and have our MOH/BM sit directly across from us (this is the extent of our bridal party).  We didn't want to seperate them since they are a married couple and we figured that sitting accross from us is close enough proximity.  Our parents will sit on either side of us and our remaining friends and family  will fill in the remaining seats. 

[uhura526]

Originally Posted by ChocoTaco7568 

 

We are also having a long table and will sit in the middle and have our MOH/BM sit directly across from us (this is the extent of our bridal party).  We didn't want to seperate them since they are a married couple and we figured that sitting accross from us is close enough proximity.  Our parents will sit on either side of us and our remaining friends and family  will fill in the remaining seats. 

Now you guys have me reconsidering our seating arrangement. We were considering doing one long table as well, but we want people to be able to chit chat with each other and thought it would be easier to do in round tables.  We were just doing a sweetheart table for me and FI and then having our BM/MOH who are married and the extent of our wedding party, join the table with our friends. Each table has 8 seats.  So we'd have 3 tables plus the sweetheart table. But I also like the layout of the long table too.  Hmmm what made you guys decide to do the seating this way?

[danak71]

Originally Posted by PuntaBride 

 

Working on my seating arrangements today!

 

My resort has told me they set up one long table.  So, I'm thinking Todd and I will sit at the end of the table.  Everyone else will be down the sides.  Any suggestions on how to organize your guests?  Who sits closest to the bride and groom?  Do you sit your wedding party together, with our without spouses?  HELP please!

I'm working on seating arrangements today as well. I was told by another bride that doing 8 at the tables at my resort would be too cramped and I was better off doing tables of 6. I was planning to do a sweetheart table and then 10 tables of 6. My issue is trying to figure out who sits where???

 

So Mark has 3 friends from work coming and they're each bringing their wives. Do I sit all 3 couples together at one table because the guys work together and know each other or do I sit each couple at a different table so they get to mix and mingle with other guests?

 

Do I sit the bridal party all together or mix them up with other people as well? I have 4 bridesmaids and 2 of them are bringing their husbands so that would be 6 if I kept them all at the same table. But I also have 2 hostesses so that would mean they would have to sit somewhere else.

 

I was kinda thinking maybe I should put all the couples together and then all the singles together? Ugggghhhhh!!!! LOL

[ChocoTaco7568]

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Originally Posted by uhura526 

Now you guys have me reconsidering our seating arrangement. We were considering doing one long table as well, but we want people to be able to chit chat with each other and thought it would be easier to do in round tables.  We were just doing a sweetheart table for me and FI and then having our BM/MOH who are married and the extent of our wedding party, join the table with our friends. Each table has 8 seats.  So we'd have 3 tables plus the sweetheart table. But I also like the layout of the long table too.  Hmmm what made you guys decide to do the seating this way?

A few factors really... Of the available reception spaces at my resort, we really liked the terrace that overlooked the ocean which is a long linear space that promotes the use of the banquet style tables. We could have used round tables but because of the layout we thought there would be too much separation.  If I could set the round tables up in a pyramid configuration than it might be a different story. But the long table just gives our wedding group a bit more of an intimate feel.  Also, we never liked the idea of sitting by ourselves at a head/sweetheart table, again, it just didn’t fit with our goal to have an intimate wedding and thought that we would be the ones missing out on the fun and great conversation.  We considered sitting at the head of the long banquet table, but preferred the idea of being in the middle. We thought that sitting at the head would create this weird hierarchy of who we were closest to and liked the most which we wanted to avoid. 

 

I should note that we have 22 confirmed guests and don’t anticipate any more than 28 people to attend. If we had any more than 35 guests I probably wouldn’t do the long banquet table setup.

[KristieT]

Originally Posted by uhura526 

 

Now you guys have me reconsidering our seating arrangement. We were considering doing one long table as well, but we want people to be able to chit chat with each other and thought it would be easier to do in round tables.  We were just doing a sweetheart table for me and FI and then having our BM/MOH who are married and the extent of our wedding party, join the table with our friends. Each table has 8 seats.  So we'd have 3 tables plus the sweetheart table. But I also like the layout of the long table too.  Hmmm what made you guys decide to do the seating this way?

For me, i choose the the long table purely from an aesthetic point of view. I really like the look.

And i also had a hard time breaking up who would sit where. This was everyone is at one table!