limiting little people in the wedding

[Jay Berry]

I kinda dont want to have a flower girl... for many reasons.

• i feel like it would create additional expenses and worries for my siblings
• theres no way i can include one niece without including my other niece and 2 nephews... my heart wouldnt let me
• if I add the 4 nieces and nephews we'll end up with a large wedding party which we wanted to avoid... thats why we chose a DW

Is anyone else forgoing tradition and not having a flower girl, junior bride/bridesmaid, junior groom/groomsmen. The only child I want IN the wedding is FI's son, theres no way we could get married without him, but as far as any other little people... I can do without:(. Not because I love them any less but I dont want any additional worries for anyone, including myself. Part of me feel like Im depriving my family of the opportunity to take part in this specal day, and part of me feels like this is what i want and i should have it. Would i be a Bitch if i go toe to toe with FI about limiting our wedding party to bridesmaids (4), maid of honor (1), best men (2), groomsmen (3) and ringbearer (1-Son)? Anything beyond that creates more work for me as I (and many brides) by default end up doing all the planning and coordinating

[tkuzma]

It's your day!!! You're not depriving anyone of anything.  They should feel it to be a privilege to be invited to attend your special day! I don't think anyone will take offence, and if they do, that's  their problem and not yours!!! I'm having 2 bridesmaids, 1 MOH and FI is having 2 GMs and 1 BM, that is all, end of story! Best of luck to you

[mzthan6]

We are actually doing the same thing 1 Best Man (his bro) 2 Brides Maid (my sisters). Still contemplating whether to have our two goddaughters as flower girl and ring bearer.  A little girl can be a ring bearer right?