Annoying and Rude/Intrusive Questions People Ask

[sgreen99]

Yup - the engagement question was the absolute worst, agreed! 

Originally Posted by maridr2012 

LOL, I'm glad it made you laugh. It is pretty funny, even I can find the humor in it after I walk away.  I too experienced the questions from friends/family at large gatherings on when we'd be getting engaged. This would always end up making me feel like crap, even though I'd pretend it was as if they were asking me what day of the week it was.  Mind you, we were together for over 5 years before he finally asked, and clearly I was at my wit's end about the whole thing and was not feeling good about the situation!  Why would anyone think it's okay to ask that?!  UGH.

 

I sometimes wonder if the folks who mention getting an invitation seriously think they will be getting one, or are they just saying it just for the heck of saying it.  I've kinda rehearsed this line, "Oh..we are having a destination wedding with only our immediate families and a handful of childhood friends or very close relatives.  We will try to plan something for our extended family and friends later on down the road".  I know we aren't.  But that seems to appease them.

 

 

[Sheena2011]

We were together 10 years before we got married. The engagement questions were never-ending....

 

Ha ha, yes I've thought of the same response to the baby questions. I'm always so thrown, I'm lucky I can mumble anything, let alone a response that would have people leave me alone.

[Oct 2012 Bride]

Hahaha I like that response. People want you to rush through big moments in life. But the ones that rush are the ones that don't make it. Yup I was asked when am I getting married way too much as well. After a while I tune people out.

[joda]

People are curious about other people (well, some people are beyond curious and into nosy territory!) and sometimes asking questions like the ones mentioned is just an easy "topic of conversation", you know? Although I don't think you should ever ask questions about money, that is completely rude. And I hate to break it to all of you, but as someone who has a 2 year old son, the questions are not going to end! If you do get pregnant, there is the - when are you due? You're so huge! You are so tiny! Are you having twins? are you going to find out the sex? Then, the did you have an epidural? Are you breast feeding? Are you sleep training? Are you having a second kid? When are you are you going to start trying? And so on and so on...it never ends.

[Jamie5280]

The baby question also drives me crazy.  Just because everyone and their mother (of my friends) are on their 2nd child.  But that doesn't even mean that I am even close to ready and I will be 34 when I get married.  My goal in life has never been to get married and have children right away.  My goal is to be happy, content with where my husband and I are, financially sound and hopefully well traveled.  If kids happen one day, then great.  But I know so many people that got married and got pregnant right away.  It's just not for everyone.

 

I have never gotten the question "how much did your ring cost"!  I would seriously be appalled!!!  That is sooo rude.

 

One question I am getting is, why aren't you having your wedding on a weekend?  Um...because it's destination and I can do any day I want (and the weekends I would have wanted were already booked)  Mind you no friends are even coming, so why even ask?

 

And the one I hate the most is.."Why can't you just get married in your hometown".  I have been saying I wanted a destination wedding well before our engagement, actually I have been saying it since after my sister's Hawaii wedding in 2002.  And this is why I don't have anyone but family coming down.  People have no problem with you spending tens of thousands of dollars on them to attend a hometown wedding.  But selfishly, I have never wanted a big wedding.

[JessiTaylor]

 

 

 

And the one I hate the most is.."Why can't you just get married in your hometown".

 

Oh thats one of the worst too!! so annoying! my  best friend said that as soon as i announced my wedding plans. "why cant you just get married in london? i dont understand why youre getting married over there" grrr.  planning a wedding in london when im living in mexico would be too much to deal with (and the time difference wouldnt help). i may not live in cancun but 1) its not so far i cant take a short domestic flight and keep an eye on things 2) its on the same time zone 3) its on a beach and we want a beach wedding (or close to beach wedding)

 

if people cant come, i understand. but i hate people trying to convince me its a bad idea or i should be doing things differently - frustrates me so so much!

[nancya]

LOL sgreen99 That response is too funny. But i'd be afraid to say that and jinx us...and i know i dont have the guts to say that to someone

[Sheena2011]

We got the hometown as well too. Well. which town would you like me to pick? The one where I grew up but haven't lived in in 12 years (and didn't like it when I was there and everyone but 6 people would all have to travel anyway)? The one where my husband grew up (that I don't like, and all but 6 people would have to travel)? The town where we met and went to university (and all but 10 people would have to travel) or where we live now (you know the drill). There was no where to go that would please everyone - I know, I spent about a year trying to convince myself that one of the options above would make me happy. But frankly, I work all week long and I didn't feel like turning planning a wedding into job #2.

 

Ah yes, the ring question. Still makes me chuckle.

[maridr2012]

I got a new one today.... "How come you're not inviting so and so, and so and so, and this or that person"?  This, alll from a mere aquaintance.   I might lose it one day and drop kick someone.  So, if you girls don't see any posts from me for a while then you'll know what happened. LOL.

[Oct 2012 Bride]

Hahaha Yes the ever so annoying " why are you having it there"? Honestly people are only saying this because they realize they don't have the money to go. But like I've said a million times. I'm not paying a bunch of money for other people to eat. And for them to feel better. At the end of the day the wedding is about the wedding couple. Although I would love to see a everyone we invited there. If someone can't make it then oh well. My FI and I will be happy and have a great time either way.