Save the dates or actual invitation..I'm confused

ahsel2003 · January 31, 2012

I have been working with the TA to get all our pricing and dates picked. When this happens my guests will have 90 days to pay the deposit. It is still 16 moths away though so I am not sure if I send actual invites or save the dates. Can someone explain what is appropriate.

LCBride2007 · February 1, 2012

typically people will send the save the date (STD) as soon as they know the date and in the case of a DW, as soon as they have the travel info so that people can plan and book accordingly. but then send out "real" invites closer to the wedding day once those details have been ironed out (location, time, etc.)

joda · February 1, 2012

My timing was slightly different as we were only 8 months out when my TA got pricing for me, but once we had that, we sent out e-stds, with a link to our wedding website which then had all the details about booking and the deposits, etc. Then I sent out the actual paper invites out 2 months prior. Honestly, I didn't really need those, because we basically know who is coming except for a couple of people, but I wanted to send them. And it did get people to go back to the website to read all the updated info and give us a meal choice.

LCBride2007 · February 1, 2012

I agree - the actual invites were more of a formality when I sent mine out. I did provide more details for those that weren't checking our wedding website - like the date/time of the welcome dinner, what to expect on the wedding day (ours involved a boat ride, etc.).

JayKay · February 2, 2012

We sent out STDs about a year in advance of our wedding, when we had a date booked with the resort and had our pricing ect. We didn't include much information, just the month and resort. We then were going to send out formal invitations closer to our wedding date, but by them everyone we sent a STD to either told us they would be coming and paid their deposit, or no they wouldn't be coming.