VENT again. My Fiance refuses to help with a rehearsal dinner. Opinions? HELP PLEASE!

SparksFly · February 7, 2012

Haha update? Hmmm...well I guess I am just adding a photographer to our package, and will pay for it myself.

I am trying not to stress about this, but it hurts my feelings that he is still resisting to help with the bill. It's also wonderful that my dad probably is really frustrated with him as well and his cheapness. SUCH an awesome way to come into a new family with your FFIL already pissed at you.

Jamie5280 · February 8, 2012

I really hope that your FI comes around! If not, I think you should have a heart to heart with him! He needs to understand that sometimes couples just need to pay wedding stuff together! (Not to mention I would want to get a feel of how he was going to be during the marriage with "his" money). And if your mom isn't covering something, then I feel he should have no problem paying for that stuff! It shouldn't all be on you and your parent's. Also for a man to say I paid for your ring is kind of hurtful. All men pay for engagement rings and yet most men are still willing to help out financially with the wedding! That's not fair to you!! I so hope you guys work through this and everything works out and no longer stresses you out! Money is stressful enough without a wedding!!!!!

Originally Posted by SparksFly

Haha update? Hmmm...well I guess I am just adding a photographer to our package, and will pay for it myself.

I am trying not to stress about this, but it hurts my feelings that he is still resisting to help with the bill. It's also wonderful that my dad probably is really frustrated with him as well and his cheapness. SUCH an awesome way to come into a new family with your FFIL already pissed at you.

Branya2012 · February 15, 2012

Well said! Especially the "Money is stressful enough without a wedding" part. It goes the other way, too...weddings are stressful enough without stressing over who's paying for what!!

Best of luck SparksFly!!

Originally Posted by Jamie5280

I really hope that your FI comes around! If not, I think you should have a heart to heart with him! He needs to understand that sometimes couples just need to pay wedding stuff together! (Not to mention I would want to get a feel of how he was going to be during the marriage with "his" money). And if your mom isn't covering something, then I feel he should have no problem paying for that stuff! It shouldn't all be on you and your parent's. Also for a man to say I paid for your ring is kind of hurtful. All men pay for engagement rings and yet most men are still willing to help out financially with the wedding! That's not fair to you!! I so hope you guys work through this and everything works out and no longer stresses you out! Money is stressful enough without a wedding!!!!!