Vent SORRY! Mom offering many people rooms on my budget!

[Janet1480]

Don't feel bad and dont beat yourself up about it. I think you have legitimate reason to be unhappy and you dont sound like a brat. 

[jana297]

I am in shock that you guys are even paying for guests to be there. All of my guests are paying for there own accomodations!

[SparksFly]

I mean if she offers to one more person I am going to flip out on her.

 

I tried to explain to her that if I had a wedding in DC, and her friends from NYC decided to come we wouldn't be responsible for paying for their rooms.  She doesn't get it.

[SparksFly]

The majority of my friends are (if they come) are going to pay for their own accomodations. Its just a handful of people, but the people who are my mom's friends are getting 3-4nights paid for at the ritzy(ier) hotel.
 

Originally Posted by jana297 

I am in shock that you guys are even paying for guests to be there. All of my guests are paying for there own accomodations!

 

[vbbbtk]

You said you have been playing travel agent.  Well I would stop immediately find a real travel agent and send out information and give your travel agent the information on who you will or will not be paying for and let her handle the calls etc and booking.  If your mothers friends do not want to put a deposit down with travel agent etc I guess they just won't be going.  The travel agent can not charge anything to your credit card that you do not approve!

[Dominican Ally]

This is a tough spot, but I totally see where you are coming from. I don't see why your mom's friends would get preferential treatment over the other guests - and on top of that, I think its nuts for her to want to pay for anyone's rooms!

[JessiTaylor]

 

I'm not paying for my guests accomodations, i simply couldn't afford it! I am basically saying to friends that i would love them to be there but i understand if they can't manage it - if they want to come they are financially responsible for themselves

 

I find it kind of weird that only her friends would get the accomodation!! Its a problem because its her money, if it was yours it would be a lot easier to put your foot down!

[JessiTaylor]

 

Ps especially since your mum's friends get the nicer hotel!! Craziness!

[SparksFly]

EXACTLY!

 

If I bring up anything about helping my one friend out who lost her job this year, my mom is like, "well you can put her up at the caribe..." UM, no I'm sorry I want to be able to see my friends just like you.

 

My dad said he will pay for my aunt and cousin...their airfare and hotel...at the nicer hotel! This is the aunt that never bothered to call me on my birthday or send me a gift my entire life, but SURE why not? Let's send her to a 5 star hotel on my wedding budget! So frustrating...

[JessiTaylor]

 

At least you have a budget. my mum said she will contribute significantly to my wedding but wont give a figure. she just tells me to get on with choosing a venue despite the fact i dont know how many people i can afford or whether i can have a basic package or something a bit more upscale =S

 

A date (april 6th 2013) is the sum total of my wedding preparations so far. it is hilarious that one day of our lives causes this much stress and drama though!

 

Agree that paying everything for the aunt is ridiulous if shes never been particularly involved in your life! I have a long lost uncle (well hes not technically lost he just stopped visiting ten years ago and will send a card once every 2 years) and even if i invited him, i wouldnt pay and i doubt he'd come