Children at Wedding

[bride81]

I would prefer no children at my wedding.  I think its too much to worry about.  How can I tell people that?  And is that ok?

[LCBride2007]

if that's what you want, of course it's ok.  

 

technically if the invite doesn't say "and family" or the kids' names then they (the parents) should know they're not invited.  not everyone does though!

 

perhaps someone on here has included wording in their invites to say something about how the wedding (and reception?) is adult only.  i know there has been a lot of discussion on the topic!

[JayKay]

Its your wedding and you can do what you want.  Have you thought about maybe an adults only resort?  Just realize though that if you have have guests with children they may choose not to come because they would have to leave their children at home.

 

Originally Posted by bride81 

I would prefer no children at my wedding.  I think its too much to worry about.  How can I tell people that?  And is that ok?

 

[Jamie5280]

I actually put on our invitations and website that the wedding ceremony and reception was adults only.  If all the people we invited decided to come and brought their kids, we would have 25-30 kids at the wedding, which is NOT something we wanted.  But, we wanted our 4 nieces and nephews to be able to go or else we would have chosen an adults only resort.  People do understand, but be prepared for those people with kids not to attend because of it.  We now have NO friends coming to our wedding because of it.  But we were prepared for that.  PM me if you want to know how I worded it on our invites and website.  I will give you the deets.  Or you can go to our website directly.  It's listed below.

[JessiTaylor]

 

Im having the kids versus no kids debate right now. I was happy to have kids there...until my fiance reminded me of our close friend's son. Most of my friends' kids are lovely....but he is horrendously behaved, smacks other kids or steals their toys, and is just wantonly destructive (last time we went to his parents house he was smashing glass fixtures with a rock!)  Its a huge pity as his 6 year old sister would be my dream flower girl. super sweet, and she loves practicing her english "what..is...your...favourite...colour" and shes a genuine pleasure to be around

 

But since you cant exclude one child from a wedding....its looking like it will have to be kids free. unless we crush up drugs and put them in his juice (but even the most crazed bridezilla wouldnt go that far!!). We still have the option of trying a diplomatic talk with his parents...but since i dnot want to offend them and i really dont think have the levels of tact/diplomacy required, looks like ill be looking for the 'no kids' wording

[bride81]

i received lots of help with this one.  However, I am a little scared to use it to be honest.  I am going to let them know that if they bring there children thats fine, but for the wedding and reception it is kid free.  there is a kids club at our resort.  I am hoping this will encourage some of our guests to leave their children at home. The problem here is I will have to forfeit a flower girl- i think.  Its a tough one, and you certainly cannot make 1 or 2 exceptions because then you will be the jerk.

[whatsup]

A ceremony without the flower girl? If she is related that might be difficult to explain especially if you've already asked. She could do her duty and the go to the kids club for the reception. Guests should understand that.

[cinnagirl]

Originally Posted by bride81 

 

i received lots of help with this one.  However, I am a little scared to use it to be honest.  I am going to let them know that if they bring there children thats fine, but for the wedding and reception it is kid free.  there is a kids club at our resort.  I am hoping this will encourage some of our guests to leave their children at home. The problem here is I will have to forfeit a flower girl- i think.  Its a tough one, and you certainly cannot make 1 or 2 exceptions because then you will be the jerk.

This is exactly what we are doing too. We chose a resort with a kids club because I have relatives that want to bring their kids (all of our friends are looking forward to their child-free vacation). We are putting a note on our website stating that kids are welcome to the resort but that there is babysitting services through the resort or our venue. 

 

We are having a flower girl for our ceremony, but then she is being taken care of by a babysitter at the restaurant for the rest of the night. Best of both worlds!

[june92012]

My nephew is that child!  He is sweet and loveable and an absolute disaster!  I don't really have a choice but to have kids considering I have 7 nephews and my my fiance has 13 nieces and nephews.  We are a little concerned about the mass amounts of children at our wedding but we shortened up the timeline and we have some fun activities for them to do.  Fingers crossed it goes well.

[LTLFAITHY]

We intentionally choose a "family friendly" resort because a huge percentage of our friends have children. Surprisingly (or not, I guess) almost everyone has said that they plan on leaving their kids at home with the grandparents ~ we're 30 so a lot of our friends are just starting families and are looking forward to their first "kid-free" vacation since become new parents. Actually most of our friends are beyond thrilled that we are having a DW because it is an excuse for them to go to Mexico! We still haven't figured out exactly what we are going to do reading kids at the ceremony and reception though..........................