Pregnancy Hardships: Miscarriages, ectopic, losses, infertility, etc

boscobel · November 2, 2011

Another long-time member brought the idea for this thread up and I really think it's a good one.

Until I experienced my own loss(es), I wasn't aware of how truly difficult it was to get and/or stay pregnant. So many of my real life friends have multiple kids and most were unplanned that I always thought getting pregnant was natural and easy. I've shared my story in various other threads, so I won't bore you all with the details here again, but thought it might be beneificial to members to have a place to talk about their loss or difficulties in either getting pregnant or maintaining that pregnancy.

Unfortunately, it's not something that many people talk about, but it's nothing shameful and it's actually very common. So post here if you need to vent or need support regarding your loss/difficulty. Or even to offer support to those of us that require it.

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To give a very short-versioned background, I experienced my first loss of an accidental pregnancy in June 2009 due to an ectopic pregnancy in my left fallopian tube. This resulted in the loss of that tube and a 50% decrease in my fertility. After many fertility treatments and taking a medical break, we got a second surprise BFP in November 2010. This also resulted in an ectopic pregnancy. I am finally in my 5th month of my third pregnancy and everything is going great. It's been a very long and tough road though.

LCBride2007 · November 3, 2011

Hi, Carly! I've told you this already, but I'm so sorry for your TTC and pregnancy struggles and am soooo glad you're prego and can't wait to meet your baby!

I too had 2 losses. I got prego w/my daughter very easy and she was born in May 2008. Then when I went to get prego for the 2nd time I figured it would be just as easy. Well, we got pregnant easy enough but I lost the first one, quite early - I'm calling it a chemical pregnancy even though a doctor didn't diagnose that. Then I got prego again and lost this one around 11-12 weeks. I ended up having to have a D&C around 12 weeks. Then I got prego for the 4th time and my son was born in October 2010.

My struggle was never getting pregnany (I was very lucky there and got pregnant every time we tried) but rather staying pregnant! My daughter was born 8 weeks early and then the 2 losses, and then my son was born 3.5 weeks early. I was very closely monitored in my last pregnancy for fear of another premature birth. But I now have 2 happy, healthy kids!