What do I do? What do I do? WHAT DO I DOOOOO!?

[mrsbruff2b]

Whoops!  I haven't checked this thread in a while.  Our invites have been made but they haven't been sent out.  What we decided to do was to address an invite to grandma and and invite to his aunt.  Every invite has "Name of Guest" (singluar).  So if they want to bring someone, they can, but not more than one.  The others will not be getting a formal invitation.  I can't stop them from showing up because they'll essentially be paying for it, but *shrug*.  I really don't want to hold awkward conversations because I am obliged to.

[Jber713]

I think you handled it perfectly!

[lmadore]

 I dont think people realize that there is a cost per person for destination weddings.  I know I didnt until I started my planning.

[favorsmr]

I think you handled it beautifully!  You certainly shouldn't feel obligated to invite anyone you hadn't planned to. 

[bjland4]

 

Yes! ! agree this :Everything was fine until about two months later when my FIs mother told me she had invited some people to come to Jamaica to our wedding.  I was absolutely furious, as its our wedding not her wedding, and the people she invited were friends of hers that I have never ever met in my life.  I'm kind of a private person and didnt want all these extra people that I dont know at my wedding.  I clearly explained to her that she needs to tell them they are not invited and she told me I would have to tell them.Tibet Tours  Needless to say I dont have that type of personality to call someone I dont know and tell them they cant come to my wedding.

To get around it we sent invites to only the people on our list and excluded FIs parents friends that they had invited.  Just a little while ago FI mother was mad that we never sent invites to her friends.  She told us that they will be coming to Jamaica whether we like it or not.  I told her that was fine, they are more then welcome to come to Jamaica the same time we will be there, but they will have nothing to do with my wedding and will not be included in any wedding events.  We are about three months away from my wedding and so far none of these friends she invited have even booked to come (they were not allowed to book as part of our group, they had to book on their own) so whether or not they will show up who knows.

[bjland4]

 

Yes! ! agree this :Everything was fine until about two months later when my FIs mother told me she had invited some people to come to Jamaica to our wedding.  I was absolutely furious, as its our wedding not her wedding, and the people she invited were friends of hers that I have never ever met in my life.  I'm kind of a private person and didnt want all these extra people that I dont know at my wedding.  I clearly explained to her that she needs to tell them they are not invited and she told me I would have to tell them.Tibet Tours  Needless to say I dont have that type of personality to call someone I dont know and tell them they cant come to my wedding.

To get around it we sent invites to only the people on our list and excluded FIs parents friends that they had invited.  Just a little while ago FI mother was mad that we never sent invites to her friends.  She told us that they will be coming to Jamaica whether we like it or not.  I told her that was fine, they are more then welcome to come to Jamaica the same time we will be there, but they will have nothing to do with my wedding and will not be included in any wedding events.  We are about three months away from my wedding and so far none of these friends she invited have even booked to come (they were not allowed to book as part of our group, they had to book on their own) so whether or not they will show up who knows.

[ANGELA2013]

I think that you handled it beautifully. We are having the same problem with people inviting themselves and it's hard.