Wedding Registry and Gifts

[susan1672]

We are just doing a small registry for the bridal shower but probably nothing else. We are also going to encourage guests to not bring gifts along.

[JenG05]

We planned on not registering because, like many of you, we feel that people attending our DW is like a gift.  I know it's costing them a lot more than attending a local wedding.  So, I would feel bad if we registered.  However,  this forum is making me realize that gifts are not just about us.  Some people just like giving gifts. Truly we don't really need anything.  Money would be great! But I don't think that would go over well. I wonder if we register somewhere like Target, if we can return the gifts and use the store credit for things we actually need like laundry detergent and paper towels.  I know, it sounds tacky! But at least it would go towards something I actually need.

[JayKay]

We too didn't plan on registering, but there were some people who were adament that they purchase us a gift. 

You could always check with target and ask what their policy is when returning gifts from registrys.

Originally Posted by JenG05 

We planned on not registering because, like many of you, we feel that people attending our DW is like a gift.  I know it's costing them a lot more than attending a local wedding.  So, I would feel bad if we registered.  However,  this forum is making me realize that gifts are not just about us.  Some people just like giving gifts. Truly we don't really need anything.  Money would be great! But I don't think that would go over well. I wonder if we register somewhere like Target, if we can return the gifts and use the store credit for things we actually need like laundry detergent and paper towels.  I know, it sounds tacky! But at least it would go towards something I actually need.

 

[Brenners]

I would be very careful with doing something like that.  If you are registering for gifts, then you are giving the impression that that is what you want since you are putting it on a list of possible gifts.  People would be very hurt I think that you just did it to essentially get money for essentials.  You may want to just not register then if you get money you are set and if you get a gift, most people will provide a gift receipt so you can return it to the store.
 

Originally Posted by JenG05 

We planned on not registering because, like many of you, we feel that people attending our DW is like a gift.  I know it's costing them a lot more than attending a local wedding.  So, I would feel bad if we registered.  However,  this forum is making me realize that gifts are not just about us.  Some people just like giving gifts. Truly we don't really need anything.  Money would be great! But I don't think that would go over well. I wonder if we register somewhere like Target, if we can return the gifts and use the store credit for things we actually need like laundry detergent and paper towels.  I know, it sounds tacky! But at least it would go towards something I actually need.

 

[Kristy28]

My FI and I were not planning on having a shower or registering for gifts or anything like that. When my family found out they were very upset. We tried explaining that everyone was paying so much to go on the trip. We had family that insisted that we register. So what we did is registered and told those who asked about it. We did not include it on the invitation or anything. For the shower my bridal party will include it on the invitation.

 

I also agree the with post above in regards to returning gifts. One of my closest friends did an entire registry with the intention of returning everything. Some people were very upset when they heard that she returned the gifts. If you do not want people to buy gifts I would just tell them you prefer monetary gifts or giftcards.

[JenG05]

Thanks for the advice.  That's a good idea Kristy.  I think we will do that also.