How to handle

[mdcoug]

Hi Ladies, 

 

There is always something for folks to complain about when it comes to weddings, but now I am starting to get complaints

(especially from FI family) from people about how much it cost to come to the resort. Has anyone else dealt with this or dealing with this now? 

[anudrm]

YEP!!!

 

Best advice : Ignore it and keep moving.  Do what makes you happy, at the end of the day the only people who presents actually matters is yours and his.  And those who WANT to come will, without the excuses 

[mdcoug]

Thank you for those kind words that makes me feel better.  I (well actually both of us) was starting to feel bad for picking the destination we did.

[anudrm]

Yea, so did I. I passed up my original plans of Moon Dance Villas in Negril Jamaica for 11-11-11, to change it to St. Augustine, Florida for 11-12-11 only to get back to my original feeling. I would have been better prepared because I started planning 2009 only to be doing things within 4 months, but IM HAPPY so it doesn't matter who and who doesn't come.
 

Originally Posted by mdcoug 

Thank you for those kind words that makes me feel better.  I (well actually both of us) was starting to feel bad for picking the destination we did.

 

[beachesSB1412]

Lord do I feel your pain!!  Last week was "Let the complaining begin" week for me!  Grrrrrrrrrrr.  I was so hoping it would never come....I mean I had gone 9mos with no complaints and for crying out loud we are all going to Jamaica and leaving crappy-a$$ Kansas weather behind in January and I am pretty sure I didnt pull anyone's leg and FORCE them to come.  Why cant people just be happy and shut it!  shew....thanks for letting me vent!  

[anudrm]

Even if they aren't happy, what makes them think that we WANT to hear it.  You aren't coming, the show will continue, sorry if I didn't take a sec to shed a tear for you.
 

Originally Posted by beachesSB1412 

Lord do I feel your pain!!  Last week was "Let the complaining begin" week for me!  Grrrrrrrrrrr.  I was so hoping it would never come....I mean I had gone 9mos with no complaints and for crying out loud we are all going to Jamaica and leaving crappy-a$$ Kansas weather behind in January and I am pretty sure I didnt pull anyone's leg and FORCE them to come.  Why cant people just be happy and shut it!  shew....thanks for letting me vent!  

 

[zbwedding]

Honestly, I wish I would have just eloped.  If I would have known the disappointment Id be feeling I would have NEVER sent over 100+ invites.  All I can help to think now is, "oh well"!!!  And this just really does go to show is that all people care about with a wedding is the party afterwards.  Its not all just my opinion any more... unfortunately, my friends & family verify this daily for me.  I feel your pain!

[anudrm]

Yes we originally had a guest list of 135 people when I decided to accommodate others and have a stateside wedding.  Now we have 16 people including myself and the groom. And I will continue to say, there are no regrets and no tears from this bride.  (maybe I am just mean and selfish, yet I think this one day in my life I have the right to be!)
 

Originally Posted by zbwedding 

Honestly, I wish I would have just eloped.  If I would have known the disappointment Id be feeling I would have NEVER sent over 100+ invites.  All I can help to think now is, "oh well"!!!  And this just really does go to show is that all people care about with a wedding is the party afterwards.  Its not all just my opinion any more... unfortunately, my friends & family verify this daily for me.  I feel your pain!

 

[zbwedding]

We have 16 total as well... majority of his family.  I wish I didnt have any regrets, but I do regret not elolping.  The money alone saved from the expense of invitations could have been used on an excursion for us.  Call that selfish, and no doubt my invitations were gorgeous, but what a waste!!!  Ugh.  I'm with you, no tears... it's YOUR day!

[anudrm]

Ours is opposite, majority of our guest are my friends and family, no one from his side.  It was supposed to be his brother & cousin as his bestmen, yet as of today they have yet to apply for passports (no sweat from me, idc).  Trust me when I say I believe you, we spent money on STD for our Florida wedding.  We paid a deposit last August for the villas in Jamaica, lost that. Paid a deposit for the golf course in Florida, lost that
 

Originally Posted by zbwedding 

We have 16 total as well... majority of his family.  I wish I didnt have any regrets, but I do regret not elolping.  The money alone saved from the expense of invitations could have been used on an excursion for us.  Call that selfish, and no doubt my invitations were gorgeous, but what a waste!!!  Ugh.  I'm with you, no tears... it's YOUR day!