FMIL gift?

[Peach]

Here is my conundrum. For gifts, I have been getting my mom, fmil, bm and moh similar things.... my bm and moh are wonderful, and I could not ask for a better future mother in law. She is really, really wonderful (both inlaws are). since day 1, they have treated me like, and told me i was, a member of the family. They are helping with everything for us as much as possible.  My mom is the opposite - completely unsupportive, only says that they will come to the dw because they have to. We are not close at all, but she is my mom.

I want to do something really nice for my fmil, to say thank you for everything. But my mom is still, well, my mom. I do not want to offend her, if she finds out about the difference, and make our strained relationship even worse.

Does anyone have any idea of anything at all that I can do for fmil? I am totally stuck.

[spawithlisab]

Perhaps get everyone the same thing and give those special people a gift on the side.  Follow up with - "this is just between you and I , I wanted to get you something extra special since you have been so wonderful." Or some thing like that. Good luck.

[Peach]

Yes, I just wanted to get her something extra on the side. I guess I should explain what I am getting everyone! They are all (moms, bms, etc) getting a large beach-y purse filled with: a pashmina, bubba keg, notebook, pen, bookmark, necklace, barefoot sandals, 'getting ready' housecoat, 'bridal party' tank, card, etc.; little things like that. Then they are getting separate things specific to them... nail files and lip glosses for the girls, pink flask for moh, that kind of thing. For the necklaces, I am getting the BMs little starfish ones to wear, but the moms are getting 'mom' jewelry instead. But I really wanted to give my future mother in law something EXTRA on top of that, since she is really, really going above and beyond in every sense (both while wedding planning and in every day life). But I do not want to offend my mom. I have no idea what specifically to give her that could be extra to say thank you for so much.

[FutureMrsDawson]

OK - I hadn't even thought of getting gifts for the inlaws beside the OOT bags I am doing for everyone.  Should I be doing something more or is that bag good enough?

 

Is giving in law gifts a regular wedding tradition of just something that goes along with Destination Weddings b/c of the OOT bag?

[Peach]

I do not know if it is the norm or not to buy the in laws gifts, but mine are way, far more supportive than my own parents are, and they are helping out a lot (in every way)... so I want to get them something. Not sure if most people get their inlaws something or not. I would think that you would keep it similar to what you get your parents. So if you get your parents something, than yes. if not, then no.

[jennaba3]

Im from the UK so I dont know if it is different here to you in the states but over here we usually gives gifts to best man, parents and in laws during the speeches. When my FH gives his speech we will then thank them for everything theyve done and give them their gift and also thank for best man for give him his gift.. I will give the bridesmaids and flowergirls jewellery to wear on the day as gifts.. My brother is our photographer and is doing alot for us so plan on giving him a gift during the speeches also.. Ooh and my friend is a hairstylist and is coming to Mexico and will be doing all our hair for us so going to get her something special also.. Gosh so much to think about! lol