In Memory Of...

[ebernard4985]

This thread has helped. I want to remember my family members I have lost on the day of our wedding, but I do not want to make people sad. There is such a fine line, especially since your wedding day is supposed to be happy, not sad.

[ebernard4985]

I have a question for others, my fiances Grandmother will not be able to attend, and we want to recognize her as well. I was going to place flowers on the table in a vase for those who have past away, and maybe put a different colored flower to represent his Grandma, but in a separate vase. (It doesn't seem right to include her in with the deceased)

[bnbrmy]

Hey ebernard4985. Why dont you put a corsage on one of the seats on the grooms side? where she would be seated if shewas able to come. I agree that putting her with the deceased is not proper. You want to celebrate the deceased in one way (spirit lives on) and people who are unable to come in a different way. If she is sick or something you could put a poem that has to do with illness or ask the other members of your party for prayers. If she is just unable to make it, I think having a reserved seat for her would be nice. With a corsage or flower and maybe a save the seat tag or something.

[missgomes]

My FI also lost his mom and I lost my GM... this is very helpful. Thank you for this post.

[khomac]

Charm from David's Bridal with my Grandmothers photo

[gettinghitched2010]

thanks for sharing. they are all beautiful..

[IrishgirlinNY]

My mom passed away suddenly on Aug 30, 2009. I have a few ideas in mind to have her there.

I am wearing her wedding dress

I am walking down the aisle to my parents wedding song (they have been married 35 yrs)

I am having a picture of her on my bouquet

I am having a floating candle in a vase with her name engraved on it for the head of the

reception table.

She was cremated & my niece has her in a charm on a necklace & she is my jr bridesmaid, so she is going to wear the necklace so my mom is in the pictures.

 

Please let me know if you think I am going to make my wedding depressing. My fiance worries that I am going to make everyone cry, including myself. I think no matter what I do, I cant see myself getting through the wedding without her and I need to have all this there. I dont know how I am supposed to get married without my mom. Anyone that has gone through this, I am willing to take any advice! How do you make it through? It is hard enough to make it through a regular day!

[gettinghitched2010]

I think you should do it. It may be depressing for a few minutes but I think everyone will be happy you honored them.

 

I see you live in Maspeth. I live in Glendale. Congrats!!!

[S&S Ho]

I'm also thinking of using floating lanterns in memory of my father that just passed away last month. Do you know where I would be able to purchase these?

[hoyt75]

We did a single stem rose on the table for each loved one lost, and one single stem rose for all of our family and friends that couldn't make it to our wedding. The officient said what they stood for after the opening, and announced all of our loved ones names. It was really sweet and everyone was in tears, but it's a good thing to do when you have lost loved ones.