Engagement Party Questions

[uma1177]

Hey Ladies,

 

Please help! We are having a small wedding in Cabo and a PARTY when we get back to Cleveland. My family is about 4 hours away, and they would like to have the engagement party there. Who do we invite - knowing many would have to travel 4 hours

[Rachelle E.]

Honestly, I don't know! :-)

 

If those same people are all travelling for the wedding as well, then it might be a lot for them to do, you know? But if this is a different group of people who won't being doing the wedding related travelling, then they might not mind sneaking away for a couple days?

 

IMO, I wouldn't want to ask too many people to travel 4 hours for a party. Did your parents say who they were wanting to have there?

 

This is a tricky one! Good luck!

[cheese_diva]

We only invited our wedding party and Matt's family (they live here in CA) for our engagement party. I felt guilty about the party... didn't want FMIL to spend allot of money and def. didn't want presents! We ended up eating Costco food (meat platter/veggies) and played poker. It was allot of fun but def. low key.

 

Do you have friends or family close to the person hosting the party? I always felt you shouldn't invite people that won't be invited to the wedding, but I guess with a destination wedding, anything goes.

 

Maybe you could suggest them taking you to a nice dinner to celebrate instead?

[bre]

We had an engagement party this summer so I did a little research on the etiquette. A number of articles I saw said people can have multiple engagement parties- you might be given one by friends, your parents, or host one yourselves- so the invite list is up to you.

 

We invited only local friends/family who were also going to be invited to the wedding but our main intention was to have our families meet since the only other time has been at my FI's father's wake. We didn't want to go from that to by the pool in Mexico.

 

IMHO, I would skip the far away family/friends and keep it to people close by since it's just an engagement party. Plus, if it's obvious that people won't be able to attend it could be perceived that you are looking for gifts even though they aren't customary at an engagement party. We were shocked at how many gifts we got.

 

Good luck and have a great time!

[TammyB]

We had a very small wedding, only 6 guests and we did a couples bachelor/bachelorette party and invited everyone. We ended up doing a dinner, comedy club and bar afterwards.

[Wisco4]

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Originally Posted by uma1177 Hey Ladies, Please help! We are having a small wedding in Cabo and a PARTY when we get back to Cleveland. My family is about 4 hours away, and they would like to have the engagement party there. Who do we invite - knowing many would have to travel 4 hours

Can you kindly suggest having the party near you so that more people can come? Your family is probably more likely to travel for the occasion.

Nice siggy pic by the way! I love that bar, they'll pour your beer into a cup so you can walk around and shop.