Great site for wedding favors

[MichCraw]

Oh no another great site to buy stuff!! lol Thanks for the tip!!

[torilynnsmith]

We are doing OOT bags as our gifts for all our guests (1 per couple and 1 for every single) this will be in lieu of traditional wedding favours.  I like how you asked what "etiquette" is and I think that is the beauty of a DW as people really don't know (guests) and depending on your style and family/expectations you can do what you are comfortable with.  I didn't want favours for a couple reasons (this is just my opinion)

 

1) I didn't want guests to have to carry something around with them or the night -- originally I planned to use the leather luggage tags we have for everyone as our "place cards" and then they would take them.  My fear was that they would get left behind and forgotten so I will be including these in the OOTs now (or sending them with pre-travel brochure)  

 

2) I didn't want something silly, useless or pointless as a favour for my guests and edible is great but I was worried about transport.  If you do something pointless you don't care if it gets left behind but can you imagine looking at the tables at the end of the night with 50% of your favours still sitting there.... even if they were only a buck or two that still adds up quick.

 

3) I figured my guests would not be wondering or looking for favours with the OOT bags.  We opted for Bubba Mugs and are considering that the "favour" of the wedding while the rest of the OOT items are an additional gift!

 

Since you are doing OOT bags I would say forego the reception favours.  We will be doing fans on the chairs for our ceremony that everyone can take with them so this could be considered the "favour" as well I guess.  Our ceremony is at 3PM so I think the fans will be nice and well used!

 

As for seating, we have opted for "assigned seating" or place cards but no seating chart.  This means we will have place cards at each seat but no big "frame" or sign when you first walk in.  Last summer we were at a wedding that was seat yourself and it was an absolute DISASTER.  Imagine tables of 10 having 7 or 9 people sat at them.  Our entire "group" ie. my FI, his parents, brother, aunts and uncles were all split up some even sitting ALONE at tables with people they didnt even know.  FI and I along with my FBIL squeezed in at the table with the brides aunts and uncles who were from another province.  We hadn't even met the bride before and so really it was the most uncomfortable experience of my life!!!!!  From that day on I insisted I would have assigned seating.  We have chosen place cards vs a seating chart since we will be having 1 LOOOOOOOOOONG table (semi private dinner)  I didn't want people to arrive and be split up from their partner or date.  This way we can also organize it so that our guests are with other people they know and can converse with.  If we were having a "round table" reception I think I would opt for a seating chart and even forego place cards.  People could then sit where they wanted at the table BUT this way you were gauranteed your guests were comfortable and with people they knew.  

 

I would NOT want to make anyone feel not "appreciated" or uncomfortable after they travelled all this way for my wedding.

 

I hope this helps a little. I know it is a bit of a rant but sometimes I think it is hard to understand different options if you haven't experienced it.  Having experienced a free for all seating I would HIGHLY HIGHLY suggest going with some sort of system.  You said 15 couples for 7 nights so that is still 30 people, not a huge group but one that I am sure would appreciate being organized nonetheless!!!

 

Best of luck!!!!!!
 

Originally Posted by LovesJakeyPoo 

I'm doing OOT bags should I get something small for reception too? if so do i get one per couple one per person? I'm not sure of the etiquette on this....I'm confused and I don't wanna do the whole seating frame thing because it's going to be small and i feel like it's not necessary for my style! I'm like sit wherever you want! so what do i get then? it seems like alot of people do the seating thing for the favors.

 

[torilynnsmith]

OMG! What an essay!!!! Sorry ladies 

[meBonidie2be]

 

 

Originally Posted by LovesJakeyPoo 

 

I'm doing OOT bags should I get something small for reception too? if so do i get one per couple one per person? I'm not sure of the etiquette on this....I'm confused and I don't wanna do the whole seating frame thing because it's going to be small and i feel like it's not necessary for my style! I'm like sit wherever you want! so what do i get then? it seems like alot of people do the seating thing for the favors.

 

 

So you are not doing an AHR it will be at the resort? I was also confused about favor per person vs. per couple. Decided what your going to do? I really wanted to do something original as well. The more i think about it the more i dont want to do the seating pic frame. I was thinking i might do beach theamed wine stoppers for AHR. My FI says that is gay for guys so.....gender specific favors?

 

[canadiangirl]

Yeah we too are having a smaller wedding guest list...i think were looking at 15-20 ppl but only sent out 30 invites in total. What i was doing was doing name tags (instead of a seating chart) the name tags will be on star fish, with a coloured string through it, this will be the thing ppl can keep and take home with them.... I think doing an OOT bag for everyone will be there gift, as I think ppl will treasure this more than the traditional gift....as a DW is not your traditional setting.

[kad1010]

Thanks for sharing!

[LovesJakeyPoo]

I'm doing an AHR and a reception at the resort...was thinking about getting two seperate favors for each event....not sure =/

[Gin Bootles]

thanks very helpful!!!

[meBonidie2be]

I met this girl last night that said at her wedding they just had a sign that said something like...In lieu of favors the bride and groom donated $ to _____ org.

 

It seems to me that whatever favor your give ppl most will leave it there or throw it away. I like the idea of doanting money instead. I really liked the starfish wine stopper so i may include those in my girls OOT bags.

[Gin Bootles]

that is very true, when we went to a wedding we didnt save them, so idk its a great idea, but i would get stuff they can use