Best Man wants to drop out.. :(

[Laurelyn]

Aww I feel so bad for your FIs.  I know my FI was really down when him and who he thought would be his bestman had a complete falling out.  Hes still sad about it to this day.

[KayCee2117]

Sorry to hear your situation ladies. We are going thru a similar thing too. We have 5 GM's but only one has booked so far and the rest are still humming and haaing. I am not sure who may be experiencing this, but I feel like ever since we announced that we are having a DW, it seems our friends are kind of avoiding us. I feel they think if they see us, all we would talk about is the wedding and put pressure on them to book which is not the case at all. We understand that with a DW, not everyone can come, money is an issue and vacation time off work etc. But we appreciate those who have booked and are making the effort to be there for us. I was a BM for my best friend who got married in Jamaica. When she sent out the group rates, I even had a sticker shock - how much did she want us to pay?!? but after doing some research and waiting out a bit, we realized the price is not that crazy and we can afford it if we saved up. I wouldn't have missed her wedding for the world.

 

My FI's best man has been his BFF since grade 8. I personally am not too fond of him but I need to accept that they will be part of our lives. The thing is he always flaunts how much money he has, how rich his parents are, the fancy car he drives and what expensive hangbags and jewelry he buys his gf,etc and he has been aching over the cost of coming to our wedding since day 1. He told my FI that he might just come for 4-5 days instead of the 7 day all inclu. package because it is "too expensive". As long as he is there for my FI, I will be a happy bride. 

 

2 of the other GM's have kids and they don't think they can make it - my FI doesn't have any brothers or a lot of friends so he really wants these guys to be there for him but at this point it looks like there will only be 2 standing up there with him. Our wedding is still 6 months away so hopefully we have some more of the wedding party confirm soon.

 

Happy planning everyone

[Sllefebvr]

Well I guess this is just a way of them saying "your wedding isn't that important to them." Honestly if this is the way they are acting and he was supposed to be your FI's best man he shouldn't want him as his best man. If this person was really a friend and cared about your and your FI's feelings this would not be an issue. We are having the same thing with our "best man" it's my FI's best friend since middle school and he was the best man in his wedding. As of right now my FI and I are at the point whoever comes comes. This is our day and NOBODY is going to ruin it!! As long as we have eachother there that is all that matters!! Your love for eachother will overcome this hurdle! I hope this maybe makes you feel better. Don't stress about the small things enjoy your day and your planning period you only get to do it once and when you look back at your 25th anniversary I am sure to bet you don't want to remember all the trouble he gave you... Let us all know the final outcome when your wedding day arrives...

[KayCee2117]

Thanks Sllefebvr. We are now only 3 weeks from departure to the Mayan for our wedding!

 

We have a total of 38 people coming and yes, the BM actually booked. He is only staying 3 nights tho, arriving a day before the wedding and leaving the day after. That doesn't bother me at all - he will be standing up there for my FI on our wedding day and that is all that matters! We are very happy with everyone who is coming - it means the world to us. I will post a full review after we get back! Happy planning everyone!

 

 

[lavenderlux]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I will hope for you that everything works out in the end

[echraide]

Both of my sisters dropped out because they couldnt do it financially, but then I found out that sister A is planning a huge trip to Disney next year and sister B has decided to start trying for a baby. I know this sounds heartless, but if you can't afford a flight from FL to Cancun and even 3 nights with 2 years notice to plan, then there's something wrong. BUT, people are going to do what they are going to do. You have to rise above it and decide that it just won't ruin your day. Its about you as a couple ad who ever doesn't show is missing out. I know you guys will have a fabulous big day!

[beachbride0519]

This is definitely a hard part of planning a DW...my fiancé's sister doesn't know if she will be coming because she can't afford it, but she's always out shopping...and same for my best friend! I think the thing that hurts is you want to be understanding that people can't come because of finances but then u see them spending money frivolously and it hurts your feelings. Just like some of the other ladies said...whoever is there is the most important and your day will still be amazing...everyone else is missing out.