NEED ADVICE!! MAID OF HONOR ISSUES (VERY LONG)

[Mwise17]

I am happy it all worked out.  The exact same thing happened to me, my cousin was my MOH and I could tell she just wasn't happy for me!  When I FINALLY picked the resort, she didn't even check it out!!!!  (she travels to all inclusive resorts 3 x's a year....)  It went on and on along the same lines...after agonizing about it forever, I finally had the talk and it did NOT go well, but I told her it wasn't fair to me and that I need to do whats best for me, and demoted her to BM....that was a month or so ago, and I am so glad that I did it!!!!  She is actually helping so much more now, and there are no hard feelings between her and my new MOH (she was a bridesmaid)...SO happy with my decision. 

Good for you for getting the nerve to trust your gut...

 

Heres to smooth sailing from here on out!!!

[Soon2BNJersey]

It was a big risk but it seems as though things are going well now, our friendship is improving again and like u said, she is happy about the step down. 

 

Cheers to smooth sailing (said with fingers crossed)

 

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Originally Posted by Mwise17 

I am happy it all worked out.  The exact same thing happened to me, my cousin was my MOH and I could tell she just wasn't happy for me!  When I FINALLY picked the resort, she didn't even check it out!!!!  (she travels to all inclusive resorts 3 x's a year....)  It went on and on along the same lines...after agonizing about it forever, I finally had the talk and it did NOT go well, but I told her it wasn't fair to me and that I need to do whats best for me, and demoted her to BM....that was a month or so ago, and I am so glad that I did it!!!!  She is actually helping so much more now, and there are no hard feelings between her and my new MOH (she was a bridesmaid)...SO happy with my decision. 

Good for you for getting the nerve to trust your gut...

 

Heres to smooth sailing from here on out!!!

 

[Mwise17]

Happy to hear!

Originally Posted by Soon2BNJersey 

 

 

[kymish]

glad it worked out for you... congrats on ur big day!!! ( thou u prob wont read this till your back ) LOL

Originally Posted by Soon2BNJersey 

 

 

[Soon2BNJersey]

Ladies,

 

We are back and I had a blast in Jamaica, You would never believe the change in events.  a few weeks prior to the wedding, My new maid of honor and my original maid of honor switch back.  I know crazy right? but at the end of the day it taught my original maid of honor to pay better attention and be honest with me.  I am glad I switched back to my original maid of honor because she was a HUGE help on the wedding day! She is a cater and knows weddings and events backwards and forwards.  she kept me cool calm and collected and I couldn't have gotten married without her.  This wedding road was a rocky one with my bridal party but at the end of the day..the one who cared the most stepped up and all else just enjoyed the spotlight.  Word of advice, choose your party carefully, but be patient with them too. 

[lucy<3woody]

So happy that this all worked out for you!!

 

Did they ever throw you a bridal shower?? That has been the biggest thing that my MOH has done for me. she did a phenomenal job and we had the best time. I just couldn't imagine if my MOH/Bridesmaids hadn't done this for me!!

[heavenone]

I'm so glad it all worked out! Congrats!

[FutureMrsF]

Happy it all worked out. Congratulations on being a MRS!!!