Bridal Shower, To have or to let lapse???

[xoamdxo75]

I'm actually having 2. Both my Mom and FMIL want to throw showers. Most of the people I invited to the wedding aren't coming and we aren't having an AHR. A lot of people thought this would be a nice way to celebrate.

[luvmoo]

I am much the same! I could care less either way if i have one.. So i figure that whatever happens, happens! if someone wants to have one for me, then i will be okay with it.. if no one plans one, then i am okay with that too! I do agree though with the other Brides on here.. You do only intend to get married once! so live it up and embrace some of the fun stuff that goes along with getting married! let people spoil you if they want to

[meBonidie2be]

I agree with most everyone on here. I really don't want a shower or gifts but my sister keeps saying she is going to do it. I dont know how with all the other things she is helping me with, three kids and a puppy to deal with. We'll see i guess

[Gin Bootles]

i am up in the air too, idk if i want to do one.

[canadiangirl]

Yeah my mom and I were talking about this the other day too, i really didnt want one either, but i have family that will not be making the wedding, as well as some friends... to be honest i luv the idea of it now, although were not doing a traditional wedding, i still luv the idea that i can still get some traditions. now here is a question do we register for this????

[futuremrstgun]

good morning, ladies!

 

i'm so glad to see this thread...as i'm feeling the same way but so many people wanted to host a shower or buy bachelorette gifts that my honey and i have opted to have a bachelorette breakfast and a bachelor breakfast..on different days while we're in jamaica.  my sister and my daughters will 'host' my breakfast and my son will host the bachelor breakfast.  mine will be on friday (the day after most of our guests are due to arrive) and my honey's will be the morning of our wedding.  i figure this will give our female guests quality time with me and the male guests quality time with my honey plus, for those that want to impart words of wisdom or shower us with gifts..then they can...

 

female guests will be formally invited using the invite below and male guests will be personally invited to the bachelor breakfast.  the invite has a small note that gifts are welcome but not expected...that way if guests just want to come and hang out at breakfast with either of us..they can feel free to do so and not feel obligated to bring a gift...

 

 

 

ii hav have decided toiidkdjdi idheras always, until next time, happy planning!!

 

R~

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Originally Posted by vbbbtk 

We are planning a destination wedding and I have been asked on multiple occations if I want a bridal shower... I personally do not want people to feel obligated to bring me any gifts especially if they plan to attend the wedding.  At the same time I know a few of our older relatives would probley enjoy to have one considering that many of them will not be able to make it to the wedding.  Any ideas ladies?

 

[Bruuning17]

At first I didn't want one either because I really do NOT want anyone to buy us gifts, especially if they are paying to come to our wedding!  But my mother is throwing me one anyway and most of the people she is inviting will be my extended family who will not make it to the DW.  So, I guess this way they get to be involved in the wedding even though they can't fly to Jamaica.  It is very sweet of them, and people tell me they would be offended if I didn't let them get me some gifts, but I feel a bit guilty accepting presents when I won't be providing them the opportunity to celebrate at the actual wedding. 

[jlarruda]

My parents & maid of honor are throwing us a jack & jill wedding shower.. in my culture its pretty much a mini wedding, since we don't live back home anymore we're not doing an AHR so this is more for us to be with guests that aren't able to go to our DW and we have familiy traveling from Canada for this.

[meBonidie2be]

 

 

Originally Posted by meBonidie2be 

 

I agree with most everyone on here. I really don't want a shower or gifts but my sister keeps saying she is going to do it. I dont know how with all the other things she is helping me with, three kids and a puppy to deal with. We'll see i guess

 

 

So, my family insisted on a shower. It was on the patio of a cute little restraunt near my house yesterday. I really did not want it. I didn't feel like I deserved any of it and i hate the games that are always played. BUT I am really glad we had one. It was really nice to be able to get together with everyone and simply get really excited for the wedding. I do think alot of ppl would have been dissapointed if we didn't have one. There were other reasons i liked it too. There were a few ppl i had in mind that i wanted to ask if they would make cookies for the reception. This was a great opportunity to ask them in person, rather than over the phone. Best of all, I finally announced that we are expecting some little feet! Everyone was soooo excited : )

I just finished all the thank you cards....

 

[WeddingMay]

Congratulation meBonidie2be! I have already been offered two showers and a bachelorette. I guess they wouldn't offer if they didn't want to. I have already talked to everyone who has indicated that they are coming to the wedding and told them not to bring gifts to any showers! The fact that they are coming to Jamaica is more than enough! I'm getting so excited!