Help! Advice Needed!

[shellbell9567]

My Fiance and I are planning our honeymoon and have run into some issues. We are having our wedding 11/26/11 on Isla Mujeres, MX and are planning on going to Playa Del Carmen the week after for our honeymoon. Recently, my Fiances family (his parents, sister and her family, and brother and his family)  has mentioned that they plan on going to Playa Del Carmen the week after as well but are going to stay at another resort (we have already booked at the Royal). 

 

My Fiance and I both feel uncomfortable about this. Mostly because we are spending a week with our families before the wedding and feel like that is plenty of time to see them and its our honeymoon. My fiance talked to his mother the other day and tried to make it clear that this makes us uncomfortable because we want to be alone during our honeymoon and not run into family. They acted hurt and said that they wont contact us while they are there and they promise not to seek us out. The problem with this is that my future father in-law keeps "joking" that wouldn't it be fun if we could do a couple dinners?!? And he is totally the kind of dad that would seek us out. I feel guilty because they are paying for our honeymoon but I also feel like we deserve to be alone on our honeymoon. I tried mentioning that they could stay in Cancun but they are dead set on Playa. 

 

Any advise? I feel like we have been very honest with them and tried to detour them but they just lay on the guilt and say that they really want to stay in Playa. I have a couple of questions for everyone: 1) what are the odds that we will run into them? I've never been to Playa and don't know the size. 2) Has anyone flew out of Cancun for their honeymoon? If so, where did you go?

 

Thanks for the help!!

[royalbride610]

Sorry your family wants to intrude on your special time!!!  If they are dead set on going, let them!  But tell them that under NO circumstances do you and your husband plan to spend time with them in Playa del Carmen.  Just tell them exactly how you feel about it being your private time to celebrate together, hopefully they'll understand.  And if they still plan to go, as long as they aren't staying at the same resort you'll probably be okay, just make sure you aren't doing any of the same excursions that they are. 

 

Good luck!

[hannaj]

if they are at a different resort, will you ever run into them?  I get why you would be upset, I totally would, but maybe there is a way to just work around it- if the reality is you won't come across them if you stick to your resort- how far away is their resort?  do they want to "hang out" or anything? that would be a deal breaker for me.  

[janette34]

I wouldn't worry about it, its not like they can come to your resort without paying for a day pass and 5th Ave is so busy that even if you were there at the same time the chances of even seeing them is slim.

[shellbell9567]

Thanks for the advice ladies. I ended up not letting it bother me, we also let them know that we will not be hanging with them--even if we run into them (which I agree is unlikely.)

 

Thanks again!

[mexicobride422]

I'm happy you are not letting it bother you! I honestly wouldn't worry..

 

I know a lot of our friends and family are going to be staying for a few more days after our wedding.. Which is why I will be keeping our honeymoon resort top secret! LOL

[jenniferkuhr]

Given that you are staying at two different resorts, the chances are slim to none that you'll run into them.  The Royal is 
SO amazing and beautiful that you will NEVER want to leave!!!!  

 

If you do venture out, which you should because the little town with retaurants/bars etc. is VERY cute and VERY fun, there is a chance you would run into them at a store or bar.  I say have FUN with it and run!  Kind of like when you were in high school sneaking around your parents trying not to get caught.  It could be hilareous and make some crazy memories, ducking and hiding from your in laws!  HA!