Is this rude? it sounds rude to me and i wrote it LOL

[Janet1480]

people are booking hotels and you havent booked a date??? That is just messed up!
 

Originally Posted by mochamakes3 

I would have been pleased if people that knew for sure there was no way would have returned our RSVPs. I don't think we have gotten any back from FFIL's family. But they have all apparently booked hotel rooms for our AHR. We haven't even picked a venue or date for that. I should have listened to FMIL and not even bothered with sending them invites instead of trying not to offend.

 

[CanadianLindsey]

Do people really think it's ok to just show up to your wedding with out telling you?

 DW or hometown wedding, that is just strange and inconsiderate! They must think they are really special poeple! LOL!  My motto...no rsvp=not a wedding guest! And only wedding guests get chairs, dinner, programs and favors!(because my resort needed to know our #'s months in advance so they could bring in chairs for the ceremony and so I could lock in the prices for dinner and cocktail hour)

 

I would love to know what your note or your website said!

 

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Originally Posted by bmadzia1 

Sorry, but I must agree with all the ladies.  It does sound a bit rude, or a bit pushy. We all know how you feel as most of us went or are going through it. We have set up a website on which I have provided all details and then once a week a do an update. If there are particular people I want to come, I've already talked to them; they know all the details.  You can't really make people rsvp, especially for a DW.  This is the harsh part of DW.  Keep in mind that a lot of people will wait till last minute to book hoping they'll get a 'last minute' sell out.  Some of my invited guests have told me they might 'surprise' us and just show up. I've included a note about element of surprise for a wedding on my website. Politely saying that I have to notify the resort's WC about number of people for my wedding etc etc. (I'm not a fan of surprises for something I'm putting a lot of effort planning).

Don't stress over the RSVP. When people are ready to book they will.  Some people will not even tell you they are not coming.  My wedding is in Sept. I sent out the invites in January.  I didn't even bother with RSVP cards (I thought it was a huge waste of money and stamps). Since I did passport invites, I dedicated a whole page to Reservations and RSVP. Asked to be notified by phone, email, via website or in person by July 1st if they are coming. Gave my self 2 months to order more favours etc. 

 

 

[Janet1480]

I Couldnt agree more! I think its crazy to think you can just show up ....i know its a lot of money and a DW but doesnt mean less planning has to go in to it. I also understand its really far in advance but because of vacation booking and budget, if you dont think you will come now then you probably wont come at all! After i send out my RSVP reminder card and dont get RSVP's back...i am marking those folks down as a no. I will have a few extra favors but i wont have the seating for the ceremony booked or the dinner so i will have to sort that out but I am hoping there arent too many add ons at the last minute and everyone can just reply to me now. Wishful thinking maybe!

 

Originally Posted by CanadianLindsey 

Do people really think it's ok to just show up to your wedding with out telling you?

 DW or hometown wedding, that is just strange and inconsiderate! They must think they are really special poeple! LOL!  My motto...no rsvp=not a wedding guest! And only wedding guests get chairs, dinner, programs and favors!(because my resort needed to know our #'s months in advance so they could bring in chairs for the ceremony and so I could lock in the prices for dinner and cocktail hour)

 

I would love to know what your note or your website said!

 

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[mochamakes3]

 

Originally Posted by Janet1480 

people are booking hotels and you havent booked a date??? That is just messed up!
 

 

They haven't really booked anything. They just wanted other people to think that they were going. I joke to FI that maybe they are secretly planning on paying for the whole thing as a surprise gift.

 

[wendyL77]

Love the post card and the wording. Very cute!!

[Janet1480]

wouldnt that be awesome! I wish someone would pay for my wedding LOL
 

Originally Posted by mochamakes3 

 

They haven't really booked anything. They just wanted other people to think that they were going. I joke to FI that maybe they are secretly planning on paying for the whole thing as a surprise gift.

 

 

[Janet1480]

Thank you! I'm hoping the light heartedness and hopefully a little chuckle will get people to give us some sort of response just for the effort in sending a reminder
 

Originally Posted by wendyL77 

Love the post card and the wording. Very cute!!

 

[SeeFlowers]

Ooh i feel your pain on the lack of RSVPs!!!!  I'm getting married next month and after begging and pleading for RSVPs to be returned, I still got no response from probably a quarter of the people! urgh!

[Janet1480]

 that really sucks! i dont want to have to beg! I'm sending out the reminder next week and leaving it at that. it will be what it will be! I have too many other things to stress over.I could probably stress over this until the wedding day ....but i am realizing that the bottom line is, some people suck LOL

 

Originally Posted by SeeFlowers 

Ooh i feel your pain on the lack of RSVPs!!!!  I'm getting married next month and after begging and pleading for RSVPs to be returned, I still got no response from probably a quarter of the people! urgh!

 

[mandys]

I think you should  just give your invitees a call a couple months before the trip. Personal interaction is always nice. The reminder postcard is not very pleasant.