HELP!!! How to word a wedding invitation??

[Afaybik]

How do you word a wedding invitation when the groom's Dad is divorced but has been remarried for the past 10 years?  I being the mother of the bride would like it to read as follows:

 

                                         Mr. & Mrs. John Brown

                              request the pleasure of your company

                              at the marriage uniting their daughter

                                              Mary Lamb

                                                  to

                                              John Doe

                                               son of

                                             Mrs. Jane Dow

                                          Mr. & Mrs. John Dow

 

The groom's mother wants it to read:

 

                                              Mary Lamb

                                                    to

                                              John Doe

                                              son of

                                             Mrs. Jane Doe

                                             Mr. John Doe

 

Thus leaving out the name of the step-mother since she did not raise him and his "real" mother does not want the step-parents name on the invitation.

 

The groom is siding with his mother.  My daughter is caught in the middle and wants to do the right thing but doesn't want anyone's feelings hurt.  What would you do?  There is another option.....we can leave all the groom's parents names off of the invitation and just include our name at the top since we are the ones paying for the wedding.

 

Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks!  The veribage has to be at the printers on Friday!   HELP!!!

[BeachBridein11]

Tough situation!  My vote is to either omit it (since you're paying) or follow what the groom wants to do.  Does the father know about the debate?

[Afaybik]

They have finally decided to leave all of the groom's parents names off of the invitation and just have the bride's parents at the top!  Thanks for your input.