How soon to start?

[jolene028]

OOOH I haven't gone there yet, as to buying the book but that's a good idea I never thought of it before!

 

Sounds like our hubbies are thinking along the same lines... today one of our friends announced that they are prego with their second baby so happy for them and I will admit its the first time that I was actually a little jealous and not like thank god its you and not us LOL funny how you spend so many years trying so hard not to get prego and now I want it!

 

Good luck, there doesn't seem to be that many people on this thread so we will have to be there for each other for a while!

[jackshayne0123]

Yeah hopefully we can get this thread going again! I know I want to be pregnant yesterday, I've had baby fever for such a long time. My sister and her hubby are also TTC, so now it's a race to see who's first! My mother said we're trying to give her a heart attack haha. I am happy for them, but also secretly hope we are first! How terrible is that? All in good fun competition, right?

[jolene028]

Luckily my sister and brother are not close to TTC but I get it, my best friend and her husband are trying so her and I are supporting racing each other lol. I am the same I want it now I am not the best at waiting actually I really, really suck at it so hopefully it doesn't take that long although I have read it can take a year... and to think of all the crap you go through to try to prevent it from happening! How is your DH about everything? Excited nervous??

[jackshayne0123]

I hear ya I suck at waiting too! I am praying it happens soon, because we won't try in March b/c we don't want a Christmas baby. Has anybody else done this, plan the month you want your baby to be born? Or am I crazy? I just think Christmas babies get ripped off, it's a busy time of year and sometimes birthdays get overlooked, or they get a combo present. Anyway, just our preference. My hubby is excited for the idea too, he wants a family and I think he'll make an amazing Dad. He's nervous too, but I think most of the emotions will come once I'm actually pregnant and it's a bit more real. For now we're just trying, and dreaming of the idea of a little mini me or mini him! But I already have a plan of how I'm going to tell him I'm pregnant, once I am, and I can't wait! Getting ahead of myself, as per usual LOL

[shan0487]

You are def not alone in the "planning the month"  One of my best friends is getting married this November- which means we can't start trying until after her wedding.  I don't want to try in November because we now have 3 friends with babies being born in August. I also do not want a December baby (even though my husband's birthday is in Dec and he says it's fine)- we just have too many Dec birthdays already.  So that means we will have Dec, Jan, and Feb to try and hope we get pregnant then otherwise we will be waiting until April (which I'd prefer not to have a jan baby either lol)...so fingers crossed it takes us less than 4 months to concieve!

I hear ya I suck at waiting too! I am praying it happens soon, because we won't try in March b/c we don't want a Christmas baby. Has anybody else done this, plan the month you want your baby to be born? Or am I crazy? I just think Christmas babies get ripped off, it's a busy time of year and sometimes birthdays get overlooked, or they get a combo present. Anyway, just our preference. My hubby is excited for the idea too, he wants a family and I think he'll make an amazing Dad. He's nervous too, but I think most of the emotions will come once I'm actually pregnant and it's a bit more real. For now we're just trying, and dreaming of the idea of a little mini me or mini him! But I already have a plan of how I'm going to tell him I'm pregnant, once I am, and I can't wait! Getting ahead of myself, as per usual LOL

[tpete199]

I had been planning on waiting a year after we were married, but my FI wants to try right away and he has a good point that us being together before we're married is kind of our pre-baby phase. (Since we already live together and decide things together). I'm also starting to get the itch to have kids, so we will see what happens!!

[jackshayne0123]

@@tpete199 Good luck!! It's so exciting! And stressful at the same time! It's so weird to not be in control, I think that's what I'm struggling with right now. We've had control of everything else, our relationship, we got engaged when we wanted, married when and where we wanted, take vacations when we want...the list goes on. But when it comes to having a baby, it's not up to us!! And it's so difficult to let that go and leave it up to fate! How does that song go, que sera, sera?

[iberostarbride]

Plan on right after

[Rainmaker]

It's so good to see all of these thoughts and that this thread is hoping again

 

My FI and I are 9 years apart so he doesn't want to be retiring and still have kids in the house. I'm not getting any younger either, so we will probably start trying soon after we get married. I would have preferred to have had time to ourselves but we've already been living together so not much will change. I had never thought of not trying for certain months. I guess with my age and his we will just be thankful whenever it happens

[jolene028]

My FI and I are 7 years apart and he doesn't want to wait either.

 

@@jackshayne0123 - I know what you mean about the non control thing I think that is what bothers me the most about it, "what do you mean I have to sit back and just wait for it to happen" that isn't my character at all!!!

 

I am glad to see there are some more ladies that have joined in, I was beginning to think that I was the only one lol