Calling All StepMoms & SM2B's :)

[nolabride78]

I'm so happy that I came across this thread. I understand what you are going through totally. My Fl and I have been together for seven years. I have a now 9 year old going on 10 and he has a 16 year old. we all use to live together in the same city but we are from New Orleans and after hurricane Katrina the Fl ex moved to NC (North Carolina). I feel so sorry for her (my soon to be daughter). Her mother was okay with me dating her ex, but as soon as she found out we were getting married all hell broke lose.
 

She will not allow her to come visit for the summer or holidays and when the mom comes to town. She tells my Fl he has to go over to his mom house to see her because she will not drop her off at our home. All in all I feel the most bad for my soon to be daughter she is caught in the middle and is 16 and need her father and mother to get along. My Fl talk to his daughter everyday, but I can see he is so hurt by the actions of the ex. I'm thinking about trying to reach out to her. (My Fl ex) I just want us to get along for the sake of my soon to be daughter. I have a daughter that doesn't have a relationship with her step-mother and I don't want that to be me and my soon to be daughter becuase I see how it affects my daughter. UGH....

 

 

[ACDCDCAC]

welcome nolabride you do have a tough situation going on, but im confident you can make it work out, you sound like you only wish positive results to happen, so how could it not work out? much luck to you

 

hello ladies, long time to chat! things are a little crazy hectic in our house, SS is involved in varsity soccer as a freshman in high school so needless to say we are trying to adjust to the madness! we are used to chasing him around for club soccer all year but this intense level of sports crammed into 3 months is crazy!! in a great crazy way haha

 

SD is getting a little left behind in her brothers wake, and her mother doesnt really try to single out alone time for the 2 of them (her 3 yr old daughter with a different dude seems to take priority over her other 2 kids, bullcrap!!! they should all be equal) but anyways, DH and i are the only 2 who try to involve her in things but she isnt very motivated to get into activities these days. well, summer is just around the corner so hopefully ill be able to get her on a swim team so she feels a part of something too. i know she feels sad that its always "brother has a game" or "brother has to go to practice" etc... she wants her own "thing."

 

anyways, hope you all are well! happy easter to you lovely ladies!

[ACDCDCAC]

happy mothers day ladies!

[SarahTD]

Hello all!  I'm new here and it's so nice to see others are experiencing some of what I am experiencing.  In 4 weeks, I am marrying a wonderful man who has 2 children, a boy  (15) and a girl (12), from a previous marriage.  They live in another state and, with his previous job, he was able to travel to see them more.  Coincidentally, since he and I got together, he had to change jobs and can't travel to see them.  It was terrible timing because, of course, it looks like I took him away from them which is the last thing I would do.  So, we fly them to stay with us for one week per year (my fiance doesn't work in the same town where we live and is often in Canada so he's not home for a week at a time usually). 

 

His ex-wife has a baby with her boyfriend and has moved on, but seems to rile the kids up at any perceived slight on my or my fiance's part.  For example- I was talking on FB with another friends who is also getting married and I said we are having some close friends and family go with us.  She went nuts saying he should consider his children "close family".  Anyone would see that that is not what I meant, but I'm afraid she's gotten the kids all excited about something that was never meant to hurt their feelings.  They knew we were going to an all-adult resort and we are having a party to celebrate with them and our friends when they are here.  I can go on and on.  We are both so frustrated.

[big3n09]

Aaawww Sarah TD don't worry they'll figure it out and see for themselves hopefully sooner than later.  We had the same situation and we are planning a AHR for August and to be honest the kids may not even come but the show must go on.  I look at it as it's not my fault that people want to be difficult and cause confusion I can only try and do but so much.  Don't worry maintain you happiness and peace, good luck with everything.

 

 

[SarahTD]

I hope they figure it out soon.  My friend suggested that we do another "wedding" at our party so the kids can be there, but I'm not sure they really care about actually seeing us get married or if they're just feeling left out in general.  

Originally Posted by big3n09 

Aaawww Sarah TD don't worry they'll figure it out and see for themselves hopefully sooner than later.  We had the same situation and we are planning a AHR for August and to be honest the kids may not even come but the show must go on.  I look at it as it's not my fault that people want to be difficult and cause confusion I can only try and do but so much.  Don't worry maintain you happiness and peace, good luck with everything.

 

 

 

[kroberrt]

 

 

I am Robert, I don't have kids yet. I really want 3, but till now nothing...My wife and I,  will have 3   , no matter how   Our biggest dream is to make them a tree house and a swimming pool in the yard. Play all 5 together.   Good luck everyone ____________________________ Absolute Steel - Steel building and carport kits with nationwide jobsite delivery. Easy DIY - America's easiest to install building system. Watch the video & see for yourself

[kroberrt]

 

I am Robert,

I don't have kids yet. I really want 3, but till now nothing...My wife and I,  will have 3   , no matter how

 

Our biggest dream is to make them a tree house and a swimming pool in the yard.

Play all 5 together.

 

Good luck everyone

____________________________

Absolute Steel - Steel building and carport kits with nationwide jobsite delivery. Easy DIY - America's easiest to install building system. Watch thevideo & see for yourself

[kroberrt]

 

I am Robert,

I don't have kids yet. I really want 3, but till now nothing...My wife and I,  will have 3   , no matter how

 

Our biggest dream is to make them a tree house and a swimming pool in the yard.

Play all 5 together.

 

Good luck everyone

____________________________

Absolute Steel - Steel building and carport kits with nationwide jobsite delivery. Easy DIY - America's easiest to install building system. Watch thevideo & see for yourself

[breathenagain22]

Hello Ladies,

 

I have read through the threads and realize I can add a different twist to the "stepmom" title.  My FI has three children, 2 girls (8 and 17) and a son (3),  as well as a stepson who has raised (13).  The girls are both from his first marriage and live in a different city.  His son's mother (also the mother of his stepson) died from cancer shortly before he and I met (they were also married).  The kids are great and we get along well.  My FI son lives with us and I have been in the picture since he was 1.  When FI and I first started dating his widow's family were not in the picture and the relationship was fractured (I kept telling him ppl grieve in different ways).  Now my FI widow's family lives 15 minutes from us and is in the picture (which I think is great!)...  We have had a few family gatherings (one at my house) in which my family, FI family, and FI widow's family have been in attendance.... Needless to say we are definitely a spin on the Brady Bunch....  So my new family will include: FI, 2 daughters, 2 sons, and me....  Although it is a bit strange to have your FI ex in-laws present, we think it is necessary because FI youngest son is biracial...

 

So far things have gone pretty good... Few issues with FI ex in relation to dealing with the kids, but she has done nothing to purposeful to hurt my relationship.

 

So when you think your situation is rough.... Imagine marrying a widower.... 

 

Do you think we could have our own reallity show!!!